No no.. it's not abt Jim Carey's movie... It's about the mask we all wear, every single day..for various reasons.
After my brush with Sadhguru, I decided that I will be extremely honest. I will not mince words, I will offer honest opinions - no sugar coating, I will tell people on the face when I do not like what they did or what they said.. and so on. Essentially it's like the way of a suicide bomber :-)
So, for quite sometime I did that. Except with my spouse I spoke my heart openly, even to my in-laws. I opened up my vulnerabilities and my not so praiseworthy thoughts about things as trivial as wedding gifts, having to attend so many birthday parties which requires me to shop for kids whose taste I don't know, my lack of enthusiasm to have a child, my fear of losing my mental balance due to the pressure of having a baby, my irritation at some contradicting statements they make, my inability to sympathise with people who speak all day of illness (which is actually some minor body ache), etc.. The list is long. I opened up in the name of honesty.
And.. after months of being honest, I realized.. to understand the view point of a person, you need to understand the person first. Me being honest doesn't help. There were so many times when what I said was mis-understood because A did not understand me in the first place and I was left feeling naked and dirty. Also I realized that it's not beautiful or poetic when u are always honest. The closest you can make your life to that of a Karan Johar movie, apart from dressing up overly and hiring stylists, is to use your mask...not the face mask.. your character mask. Being honest with people who do not know who you are and what you're thinking and how you came to that conclusion, leaves you feeling dirty. Also, people cannot accept 100% open views about them. In the dark they may confess to being a foodaholic or shopaholic or too fat or obsessed with porn, but the moment some voice other than their inner voice tells this fact, they become defensive. Even I become defensive. I am no exception. Try telling me that I eat more.. you will have to face a tornado. So, another lesson learnt.
Wear your mask always. Try to make others happy. Be honest only when absolutely needed. Keep your inner thoughts to yourself. Stay happy...
After my brush with Sadhguru, I decided that I will be extremely honest. I will not mince words, I will offer honest opinions - no sugar coating, I will tell people on the face when I do not like what they did or what they said.. and so on. Essentially it's like the way of a suicide bomber :-)
So, for quite sometime I did that. Except with my spouse I spoke my heart openly, even to my in-laws. I opened up my vulnerabilities and my not so praiseworthy thoughts about things as trivial as wedding gifts, having to attend so many birthday parties which requires me to shop for kids whose taste I don't know, my lack of enthusiasm to have a child, my fear of losing my mental balance due to the pressure of having a baby, my irritation at some contradicting statements they make, my inability to sympathise with people who speak all day of illness (which is actually some minor body ache), etc.. The list is long. I opened up in the name of honesty.
And.. after months of being honest, I realized.. to understand the view point of a person, you need to understand the person first. Me being honest doesn't help. There were so many times when what I said was mis-understood because A did not understand me in the first place and I was left feeling naked and dirty. Also I realized that it's not beautiful or poetic when u are always honest. The closest you can make your life to that of a Karan Johar movie, apart from dressing up overly and hiring stylists, is to use your mask...not the face mask.. your character mask. Being honest with people who do not know who you are and what you're thinking and how you came to that conclusion, leaves you feeling dirty. Also, people cannot accept 100% open views about them. In the dark they may confess to being a foodaholic or shopaholic or too fat or obsessed with porn, but the moment some voice other than their inner voice tells this fact, they become defensive. Even I become defensive. I am no exception. Try telling me that I eat more.. you will have to face a tornado. So, another lesson learnt.
Wear your mask always. Try to make others happy. Be honest only when absolutely needed. Keep your inner thoughts to yourself. Stay happy...
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