Monday, September 22, 2014

The Guest House - awesome poem by Rumi

The Guest House
This being human is a guest house.
Every morning a new arrival.
A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes
as an unexpected visitor.
Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they are a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still, treat each guest honorably.
He may be clearing you out
for some new delight.
The dark thought, the shame, the malice.
meet them at the door laughing and invite them in.
Be grateful for whatever comes.
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond.

-- Jelaluddin Rumi,
    translation by Coleman Barks

Ego and the pursuit of truth

Just yday I was thinking that if we didn't let our egos interfere with things, our only aim would be "Find the truth" or "May the best man win". The truth you seek is more important than feeding your ego. If your emotional turbulence interferes you cannot think straight and be objective and take the right decisions.

Surprisingly I find a very very similar article at Chanakya Niti.
http://chanakya.brainhungry.com/dont-stubborn-happy-life/

Don’t be Stubborn to be Happy in Life

Chanakya gave a principle “मानी प्रतिमानीनमात्मनि  द्वितीयं मंत्रमुत्पादयेत् |”. It means that while in a discussion a man must keep aside his ego to reach a valid conclusion. For me the validity of this Chanakya quote (चाणक्य सूत्र) is indisputable.
The points I am about to make are important for all, but are even more important for people who have acquired something valuable in their lives. Let’s begin!

Who’s Determined and Who is Stubborn?

The best situations are those where exists no disagreement, but sometimes life demands you to make tough choices.
The lack of discretion is the component that differentiates a stubborn person from a determined being. The basic idea that I am trying to convey in this passage is about selecting the best option when all of the available options don’t appear so viable. The best example I can think of is that of an army commander who is determined to win the war, but will not fight a lost-battle. On the other hand a stubborn commander will confuse stupidity with courage and engage in a battle that might prove fatal to whole regime. * The principle stated at top is not about agreeing with the view of majority. It’s all about rational thinking and unbiased evaluations.

Singing Song of Yesterday:

If stubbornness is a seed then success is like a fertile land for it. The people who have tasted success in past are more likely to acquire this disease. Not all, but a few people do planning with a biased approach ignoring the altered state of events.
The simple solution to avoid mistakes is to consider each problem as unique. Then figure out a solution considering all attributes of that individual problem.
* It is not that you’ll always be able to figure out a brand new solution. The finalized solution might be the old one that you applied previously for same type of problem, but this time you will be sure about its viability.
* Dear Achievers don’t restrict your ability to achieve more in life just for the sake of feeding your ego.

Listening the Solution:

The problem with an egoistic or stubborn person is that he listens to his ego. He has no problem in hearing the views of his teammates, but listens only to his ego. He is one who wants all credits for himself and ignores the ideas proposed by others.
It is not like that each and every solution proposed by others will be beneficial, but ignoring the ideas and opinions of an expert is pure ignorance.
Here, listening to your teammates is the first step and rational evaluation is the second one. None of the either can be ignored.

My encounter with gods



I am a very god fearing person. I fear all the gods. They paralyze me. Coming from a staunch TamBrahm family I lived in eternal fear that people will find out that my knowledge about gods was zero. I had a tough time remembering the gods, their faces, their core identities, their various avatars, their weapons of mass destruction or construction, their respective mantras, their birth days and whether it's a Shaivite god or a Vaishnavite God or whatever.

To make things worse, a few more new gods from all parts of India were introduced every few months. I could not cope up.

One day I broke down. I thought "Why are all the gods not helping me remember them?". I them became an atheist because that was in vogue and majorly because I wanted to get out of this trauma. If someone asked me about gods and my favourite temples, I simply had to tell them "I'm an atheist.".
Things became very simple.

But then you secretly admire Ganesh-ji because he's so cute. He looks like you.. and he's captured the imagination of so many artists who do everything with Ganesha - from Punjabi ganesha to football ganesha. He's just cute - he and his mouse and his pettu.

Then, things changed in my life. There was a sense of desperation. It was at that point that I was advised by a well meaning person to visit Hanumanji every evening and recite the Hanuman Chalisa every night. I was once caught red handed coming out of the temple. My neighbour stared at me in shock. I confessed to my crime. It was a very low phase - emotionally and financially. I did not see light at the end of the tunnel.

That was the time that I had read about Hanumanji. I was astonished when I read that he also did not believe in his abilities. Someone had to sing Hanuman Chalisa for him to realize his strengths. This was a powerful story for me. All of us can suffer self esteem issues! I was viewing everything from the self esteem issue as that was no 1 priority for me then. My husband was totally ignorant of the fact that I was suffering so much inside. I was driving myself crazy with the constant blaming. He said "You've done some amazing job which most people can't do. Why not be proud of that?".
I never believed him. He's too kind to me. I thought he's trying to just cheer me.

But then, I did know that all my problems were self esteem issues. I did work on it mostly, whole of last year. I openly confessed to people that I had a low self esteem (and most people were shell shocked). I decided to be positive about myself. I patted myself in the back whenever I did something good or smart or efficient or useful. I found that I did have a lot of small good things. Maybe I was in the wrong field with the wrong kind of people, which dented my self esteem beyond repair but I was not bad at all. I worked slowly and I realized that people are not as "great" as I had pictured them to be. Everyone had flaws. Everyone had issues. Everyone had weaknesses which they did not want others to see. Most people hid their flaws. Most people only focus on what they can do well. They totally avoid the things they can't do. Many people didn't even make an effort to change. Many people did not know themselves. I saw people. I then learnt that all of us are bound together by our common fears and insecurities. You need to love your self and have some self worth and then work hard towards your goal. I accepted that I was not that bad. I had problems but so does everyone else.

So, slowly I think things have changed. I have become laidback. My days are quite chaotic and I do not like it. I sometimes don't read a single useful thing in a day. I waste time. I still have not set aims and goals to achieve in 1 year. I don't know what I am going to do, to find a job. All these questions lurk and I am not entirely happy with the way I am taking life.

But at the broad level, things have become positive. I can feel it. There is very less negativity. Even when people pass stinging remarks they do not hurt as much as it used to do. When we feel low about ourself, everything that anyone says will sting us. When we feel good about ourself we are more willing to forgive others for any of their rude remarks. I kind of feel more stable inside nowadays.

Over the last 2 years yoga - theoretical, happened. I learnt about GOD for the first time. The concept of a HINDU god. I read about Hinduism and spirituality. I was shocked. I was taken aback. So, this is the concept of GOD? Aham Brahmasmi. Naan Kadavul. So, I intellectually knew God. I felt redeemed. I felt my guilt of not knowing gods, vanish. I understood that most people, including the most ardent temple goers, did not know the concept of god. Unless they were bhakts, I was wondering how GOD could help them. So, when you place your trust in God, I think what essentially happens is you open doors inside you to your deepest intelligence. You operate from God's perspective. God operates through you - through that opening you made. It's you but you think it's god - some supernatural force. Anyway, as long as it works, good for you.

So, I lost and found GOD. Now, I no longer fear GODs. I want to find my own god within. That experiential realization - or atleast a hint of it, would be the best gift ever.










Sunday, September 21, 2014

Awesome post by Rani Jeyaraj on breaking bad habits with yoga

Break your bad habits


It is better to let go of negative habits or better still transform them into positive habits.
It is better to let go of negative habits or better still transform them into positive habits.

Don't label yourself based on your negative behaviour, but try to let go of it

So you slept in again and didn’t make it to the morning yoga class. You tell yourself it is okay and decide to go for the evening class. Then your colleagues make a dinner plan and you skip the evening class. So you tell yourself, “I will be regular from tomorrow.” But dinner ends late and once again you find yourself hitting that snooze button. But you wake up feeling terribly guilty and tell yourself that you will go for the evening class and the cycle begins all over again.
Don’t be too hard on yourself; we have all been there and done that. Everyone has repetitive behavioural patterns: perhaps you are always late, or you keep losing your temper, or you constantly interrupt people when they are talking. We put labels on ourselves based on these patterns.
But these are just habits, not who we really are. Often, habits emerge from some experience that we have had earlier in life – if your parents never listened to you when you were growing up, you might find yourself interrupting people because you are desperate to be heard; if your first boss had a bad temper, you might find that you also raise your voice with your employees.
The impact of these experiences could be small or large. Either way, it is better to let go of negative habits or better still transform them into positive habits. The philosophy of yoga refers to these patterns as Samskaras. From the moment we are born, we are interacting with the world. This interaction leaves impressions or imprints on our mind. These impressions influence or colour our life.
These patterns are sometimes positive, but often, as mentioned above, the Samskaras are negative and they hinder our evolution and progress.
Yoga is the tool we use to break these Samskaras and liberate ourselves. The holistic practice of yoga leads to the ultimate liberation, Nirvana, or if you are not ready for that as yet, simply liberation from bad habits or negative patterns of behaviour. The approach is simple:
Build awareness Sometimes we are not even aware of our negative samskaras. Yoga teaches us awareness of the body, the breath and of the mind. When our minds are more alert, it is easier to see our behavioural patterns.
Self-Study Once we identify our negative samskaras, we use the technique of svadhyaha or self-study to understand more. When do we react? What are our triggers? We learn to identify the source of these negative habits. Meditation is a very important tool in this self-study.
Letting go Once we are able to identify our behaviour and its source, yoga teaches us to let go. Just as we learn to let go of the physical body when we lie down in Shavasana, so we can let go of the chaos in our minds.
Live in the present Through asana practice and meditation, we learn to live in the present. In this moment there is no past, no future. So there can be no trigger, no worry and no reason to behave in a set way.
Connect with your true self It is in this present moment that we see our true selves, beyond all the roles and labels, beyond the influence of the past and the desires for the future. So next time you decide to sleep instead of going for your yoga class, think again. You are not simply missing a yoga class, but missing a step towards a happier life.

Fine tuning FB notifications

I think FB and Twitter will die a bloody death :-)

Why... Initially you're all interested.
It's a platform to catch up with others. You want to see what the world is upto, what people are doing, etc.

Then there are those endless pictures.
Pictures and pictures that exhaust the first few pages of your FB home page.
You have forwards on topics that do not interest you.
You then fine tune. You stop notifications when you see certain people posting continuously about topics that do not interest you.
For me, that would be - politics, cricket.
Then there are the occasional irritating forwards that do the rounds. Irritating in the sense, ones that were written without thought - which wrongly affect public perception. Recent ones - All children get awesome moms, but not all moms get awesome children.. The way it was put was like "No mother gets good children". Such things change public perception wrongly. Someone like me could get hurt with such a post.

And its most difficult when such things come from people you know.. and you kind of trust their judgement to not post horrific things. I don't even know if I have the right to get angry. Who am I to say that someone is wrong or they should not post certain stuff?
Everyone has the same freedom of speech and expression that I have.
But some articles are just plain negative or biased or what to say.. in bad taste.
Today I was in real turmoil over what to do?

If I do not have this tolerance, am I eligible to be on Facebook?
Do my words hurt people? Do I scare people?
Do my articles negatively affect people?
Do I appear as the word-ie kind of person who shows off that she can write?
I don't know..
I believe in keeping intentions clear..
I re-assess my aims of using FB again.
a) Propagate good thought.
b) Humour.
c) Connect.

I think people should have broad aims of how they intend to use FB..
What they expect from FB and what they put out on FB.
Since this is not happening for 95% folks, FB will kill itself.
People will find increasing number of annoying posts. They have to fine tune their filters everytime they see junk but still junk will seep in.
They will find their self esteem bombarded by some posts.

Most importantly, you don;t know the person in FB. You have no right to judge them.
You donno what makes them post certain annoying things. I have some well meaning friends who just post pictures all the time or about their children's achievements or their vacations or the hotels they eat in. It gives off different messages about you. Sometimes I too wish they didn't so blatantly express their status and richness. But again, do I know why they posted it in the first place? Maybe they never ever felt that it could be a put off for someone, else they would not do it.

Someone may have the same issues with me.
I think this connected world is complex. You don't know the human and their reasons behind doing things. My neighbours know me. My immediate family knows me. Beyond that people don't know what motivates you or what phase of life you're in, etc. So they may not understand the context of a post. It's complex.

So, given all these - I am wondering.. Should I use FB? Is it giving me any value?
There are very few good articles I come across through FB.
But I use FB to voice my opinions. To spread some thoughts. As a pseudo writer I need audience and I use my FB as my audience. I think it's not right. Maybe I should re-evaluate it.

Should I quite FB? Thinking....









Saturday, September 20, 2014

Gulzar and Rajinikanth

Only Gulzar saab and Rajinikanth can do that.
Do what?
Wear a kurta and not dye their hair and still find people interested in them and get work in THAT industry.
The rest have to fight - willingly or unwillingly - just to find work so that they can sustain enough to become a powerful brand like Gulzar saab or Rajinikanth from where they can go out with white kurta, white hair. Or maybe, by the time they become that powerful brand, the Ellie Saab gown has totally consumed them and they have lost track of the fact that they did all this so that they can be powerful enough to get work no matter what they wore.

Let's take someone like Richa Chaddha or Padmapriya. I have seen their clothing style change.I have seen them succumb to item numbers... Such intelligent actresses...It's truly an unfair world. The alabaster automatons with zero acting skills are ruling the Tamil movie industry and such talented people like Sneha, Padmapriya, Parvathy - etc take a beating. Same with Neha Dhupia, Gul Panag.
I am even happy that Vidya Balan survived this onslaught and got the much deserved recognition. How did she do it?

Deepika Padukone has the power to talk against TOI. But if it was a lesser known actress, would she have the power to talk against TOI? They might just destroy their career. How does one survive in such an industry?


P.S: OK, George Clooney and Ajith can also appear with salt and pepper hair and their movies sell.

Love yourself - Anita Moorjani

Words and identities

Part 1:
Words mean more than just words.. words are labels, identities, images, public opinion, stereotypes and more... So when people usually say "Oh, that's a woman" it means - bad driver, bad coder, bad at logic, bad at being to the point, bad at being objective, bad at controlling emotions and all these negative connotations.
Another peculiarly disgusting word is "housewife". It has "come" to mean one thing in India - "A useless person". Who on earth aspires to be useless? I want to know.
All of us casually use these words but because they have come to mean these things, its disgusting. I have seen people getting extremely hurt when these are words are used "on" them. These words (and many more) need rework.
I am writing this on behalf of a lot of people who get frustrated every single day due to these "words" thrown at them, diminishing their self worth because very few "housewives" are given an ego boost. Our jobs, titles, qualifications, salaries, incentives are all just ego boosters... Some people never get ego boosters and they do not know their self worth. So next time, let's be kind and give people an ego boost. Many jobs lack meaning and purpose and don't mean a thing. Having a job just means income. The people who make most of the money are located in Vegas and I am yet to figure out Vegas's contribution to the world. Even Wall Street.. What is Wall Street's contribution to the world? It's quite a fake world out there.
So, let's think what jobs truly mean. Let's stop categorizing the world based on that. I truly apologize to people on whom I have used those disgusting words, in my ignorance.

Part 2:
 It's extremely difficult to express a complex thing in words. I failed last time.
I'm just throwing a few points to ponder. Self worth - fragile ego- social pressure- identification. We cannot sensitize everyone about every issue/ word. Agreed. One needs to have a healthy self esteem - else in today's heavily connected world - every day would be a challenge.
1) The core issue we were talking of is one of self worth and self esteem.
It takes years to build; no book or quote can help. Even if I praise someone to death it will not increase their self worth unless they work on it. But one wrong word and they're doomed.
People with low self esteem drive themselves crazy for having made it to the Princeton doctoral program It gets that bad.

You could be at NASA with low self esteem or at your house with low self esteem and not just words - every possible thing will kill you.I picked the "housewife" case just due to its frequency.
2) Other images of words in "my" community:
a. "artist types" (bad in maths and science and can't earn a living)
b. "fashionable" (only aim in life is to dress). I secretly dread that no one finds out that I know Ellie Saab or Wendell Roddicks.
c. "one who drinks" (wife beater, lies inebriated in the streets )
d. "intelligent person" (one who saves money). - All through my life I so wanted to become that image of an intelligent woman. Have given up.
e. "software engineer" (earns a lot, spends a lot, wears bermuda to weddings, if he can't make it to the US - he's dull.). - I have cried in horror so many times when people ask "Why didn't you shift to the US?".
The iPhone we carry and the cars we drive are all connected to certain social images which we want to be identified with - not because of any intrinsic product value.
3) Earlier days housewife meant smart and efficient home maker. So many people were happy "being" that image. What we want to become is sometimes driven by society's perception of that job - rather than whether we really want to do it If 10 people ask a person "So, you're a XXXX?" then that person doubts whether he's doing the right thing. Self esteem issue but connected to society's poor perception of XXX job.
4) Excessive identification with job is something we can all introspect. So when you retire you really don't have to wear a badge like ex-chief justice of India wherever you go as if you're afraid that people will disrespect you if they didn't know your title. You don't have to wear your Amazon/ Google ID cards to every wedding party like an accessory. The fragile egos of such people is even more intriguing.
Food for thought. Not a debate. Not a sermon.


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Supporting text:
http://www.oprah.com/oprahs-lifeclass/Eckhart-Tolle-on-How-to-Free-Yourself-from-Your-Ego-Armor

Vanity and pride are what most of us tend to think of when we think of ego, but ego is much more than an overinflated sense of self. It can also turn up in feelings of inferiority or self-hatred because ego is any image you have of yourself that gives you a sense of identity—and that identity derives from the things you tell yourself and the things other people have been saying about you that you've decided to accept as truth.

One way to think about ego is as a protective heavy shell, such as the kind some animals have, like a big beetle. This protective shell works like armor to cut you off from other people and the outside world. What I mean by shell is a sense of separation: Here's me and there's the rest of the universe and other people. The ego likes to emphasize the "otherness" of others.

This sense of separation is an intrinsic part of the ego. The ego loves to strengthen itself by complaining—either in thoughts or words—about other people, the situation you find yourself in, something that is happening right now but "shouldn't be," and even about yourself. For example, when you're in a long line at the supermarket, your mind might start complaining how slow the checkout person is, how he should be doing this or doing that, or he failed to do anything at all—including packing the bag of the person ahead of you correctly.

When this happens, the ego has you in its grip. You don't have thoughts; the thoughts have you—and if you want to be free, you have to understand that the voice in your head has created them and irritation and upset you feel is the emotional response to that voice Only in this way can you be present to the truer world around you and see the golden shade in a pound of pears on the scanner, or the delight of a child in line who begs to eat them.The trick, of course, is to work to free ourselves from this armor and from this voice that is dictating reality.

Observe Your Mind
The first foundational step is to become aware of what kind of thoughts you habitually think, especially negative thoughts: irritation, anger, impatience and perhaps even some kind of sadness. You might, for example, complain about yourself, how useless you are. If you start to hear these repetitive thoughts, then you will suddenly realize, "I've been thinking these same thoughts again and again almost every day without really knowing it."

Distinguish Between the Voice of Ego and the Actual Situation
Awareness is the beginning of becoming free of the ego because then you realize that your thoughts—and the negative emotions they produce—are dysfunctional and unnecessary. For example, let's go back to the supermarket line. As you stand waiting, you aren't actually irritated because it's taking a long time to get through to the checkout, which is the situation. You are irritated by what your mind is telling you about the situation—which is that all this waiting is bad and a waste of your time. But you could actually be enjoying that moment if you say, "This is simply what is. There's nothing I can do about it, so why not breathe in deeply and look around and enjoy the world around me?"

Let Go of Limiting Stories
Sometimes the danger is not even pessimistic thought. If, for instance, you have been let go from your job, you might so resist being negative that you say, "It's a great thing that I lost my job!" That kind of willful optimism is not necessary. We hold on to the fairy tale of supposed happiness—that we should be happy. But this keeps you stuck where you are. Instead, try to describe only what is happening, without judgment: I do not have a job. I must look for one.

Bring In Your Awareness
When you see the difference between your voice and the reality of the situation, that's the beginning of awakening. This is often a moment—a flash that sizzles and disappears. Initially you still lose yourself again, and the old thoughts arise, but gradually, you gain awareness, and the dysfunctional thoughts subside. It's a gradual transition, this bringing in of your awareness, because the ego doesn't want to change. It doesn't want to disappear, so it will give you plenty of reasons why you cannot be present.

Lay Down Your Weapons
Your challenge will be to become more aligned internally with the present moment. Fighting with your ego by will just makes it stronger. By declaring war on it, you make an enemy. A simple example: You wake up in the morning, and it's raining and gray, and the mind says, "What a miserable day," and this is not a pleasant thought. You likely feel some emotion: dread, disappointment, unhappiness. You suddenly realize that your judgment of what kind of day it will be is based on a mental habit, an unconscious default. That simple awareness creates space for a new thought to emerge. You can look again out the window without that preconception and just see the sky. It's gray. There's some sunlight filtering through the sky. There are, perhaps, raindrops falling. It's not actually miserable at all. It has a certain beauty. Then suddenly, you're free. You're no longer imposing something on reality, and you're free to enjoy what, previously, you had rejected.

To learn more about the ego, overcoming adversity and creating inner peace and meaning in your life visit EckhartTolleTV.com.

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—As told to Leigh Newman

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101 days ago
Aaziah
How To Get Rid of Your Ego
The ego is always on guard against any kind of perceived diminishment. Automatic ego ­repair mechanisms come into effect to restore the mental form of “me.” When someone blames or criticizes me, that to the ego is a diminishment of self, and it will immediately attempt to repair its diminished sense of self through self ­justification, defense, or blaming. Whether the other person is right or wrong is irrelevant to the ego.

It is much more interested in self ­preservation than in the truth. This is the preservation of the psychological form of “me.” Even such a normal thing as shouting something back when another driver calls you “idiot” is an automatic and unconscious ego ­repair mechanism. One of the most common ego­ repair mechanisms is anger, which causes a temporary but huge ego inflation. All repair mechanisms make perfect sense to the ego but are actually dysfunctional. Those that are most extreme in their dysfunction are physical violence ad self­ delusion in the form of grandiose fantasies.

A powerful spiritual practice is consciously to allow the diminishment of ego when it happens without attempting to restore it. I recommend that you experiment with this from time to time. For example, when someone criticizes you, blames you, or calls you names, instead of immediately retaliating or defending yourself – Do Nothing.

Allow the self­ image to remain diminished and become alert to what that feels like deep inside you. For a few seconds, it may feel uncomfortable, as if you had shrunk in size. Then you may sense an inner spaciousness that feels intensely alive. You haven’t been diminished at all. In fact, you have expanded. You may then come to an amazing realization: When you are seemingly diminished in some way and remain in absolute non ­reaction, not just externally but also internally, you realize that nothing real has been diminished, that through becoming “less,” you become more.

When you no longer defend or attempt to strengthen the form of yourself, you step out of identification with form, with mental self ­image. Through becoming less (in the ego’s perception), you in fact undergo an expansion and make room for Being to come forward. True power, who you are beyond form, can then shine through the apparently weakened form. this is what Jesus means when he says, “Deny yourself” or “Turn the other cheek.”

This does not mean, of course, that you invite abuse or turn yourself into a victim of unconscious people. Sometimes a situation may demand that you tell someone to “back off” in no uncertain terms. Without egoic defensiveness, there will be power behind your words, yet no reactive force. If necessary, you can also say not to someone firmly and clearly, and it will be what I call a “high­ quality no” that is free of all negativity.

If you are content with being nobody in particular, content not to stand out, you align yourself with the power of the universe. What looks like weakness to the ego is in fact the only true strength. This spiritual truth is diametrically opposed to the values of our contemporary culture and the way it conditions people to behave.

Instead of trying to be the mountain, teaches the ancient Tao Te Ching, “Be the valley of the universe.” In this way, you are restored to wholeness and so “All things will come to you.”

Similarly, Jesus, in one of his parables, teaches that “When you are invited, go and sit in the lowest place so that when your host comes, he may say to you, friend, move up higher. Then you will be honored in the presence of all who sit at table with you. For everyone who exalts himself will be humbled, and he who humbles himself will be exalted.”

Another aspect of this practice is to refrain from attempting to strengthen the self by showing off, wanting to stand out, be special, make an impression, or demand attention.



It may include occasionally refraining from expressing your opinion when everybody is expressing his or hers, and seeing what that feels like.
Sadhguru:
Whenever your ego is satisfied, you are very peaceful. Wherever you go, in that place, if people are willing to support and boost your ego, in that place you are very peaceful. Only in those places where your ego takes a thrashing, that is where you are not peaceful, isn’t it?
Generally in the world, when people talk about peace of mind, it is only about somehow making their ego comfortable. Instead of being in a disturbed state, they wish to be comfortable. But the very process of trying to make your ego comfortable is the whole process of discomfort also. The more a person tries to be peaceful, he only loses his peace and goes off  

Generally the peace that you achieve is only about making yourself comfortable.
This peace is of no great significance. It is better to be disturbed because if you are disturbed, at least you will search. If you become peaceful you only become complacent. Complacence is the greatest enemy. Disturbance is not your enemy. Your complacence is the greatest enemy and this kind of peace will create only complacence.
Peace can also come out of achievement. When you have achieved something you feel very satisfied. You feel like you are complete, a whole being. This lasts just for a moment. This feeling of wholeness is not really wholeness. When your wishes are fulfilled, when your ambitions are fulfilled, or when everything is right for you, when the situation around you is comfortable for your ego and your body, these are the times when you feel peaceful generally. But this peace is not peace. Peace means nothingness.
P.S: Very interestingly, I remembered that long back I had read something about housewives in Preeti Shenoy's blog. I had not read this specific one, but it's such a coincidence that both of us have thought over the same things!
http://blog.preetishenoy.com/2007/10/renewal-writers-island-2.html


Wednesday, September 17, 2014

Happiness is your intrinsic nature

Our desire is an agitation and when you attain the object of desire, the agitation is temporarily removed. Objects themselves do not have the substance, the power or the capacity to make you happy. They only help to temporarily remove the agitation in the mind. Happiness is our natural being. When the sense of lack is temporarily removed by attaining an object, that happiness within makes itself known with a sense of fullness and completion.

Drop the mind

The economics of energy in/out

I have been reading quite a lot over the last 2 years. I have never read so much, so consistently earlier (unless it's for an exam).
Some days, I feel filled to the brim. I can't take in any more words.. any more concepts.
I also have the nagging feeling that I have not produced anything out of my knowledge. It bogs me.

Then, we had this conversation and my husband said that I am doing things that draw a lot of energy.
If I did something that could provide me with energy rather than drain me, I'd be doing good. He said for long I have been a consumer - which was energy consuming rather than a producer.

When we create a piece of art - with a lot of passion - let's say we cook a  great meal - we kind of produce energy, we're not expending energy. We derive more meaning and happiness in this process than simply consuming.

Whereas when you are reading a serious book or watching a serious programme, you're consuming energy. That's why we can see that on FB people "like" pictures more than long sentences that need to be read, understood and interpreted. It's very less strainful on the brain to just see pics and like. In today's world, we are so sucked into our jobs which require tremendous concentration and energy to accomplish. That leaves us with no energy outside of work. We're very tired to do things at home.

So, we need to balance our energies - rather keep the energy consumed, less than the energy produced.

This led me to another topic. How do we wake up each day energized physically, emotionally and energetically?

Sleep for one replenishes the physical body. Goals and hope keep the mind healthy and alive and make us look forward to the day.

It's when we don't see pleasure for long or lack goals and lack a direction that days get difficult.
It's difficult to get out of bed. There is nothing to look forward to and it may take a while to get some goal to work for you. It's an arduous task. We have our lows. It's how well we bounce back that matters.. not how low we fall.

Authentic living

“Living up to an image that you have of yourself or that other people have of you is inauthentic living.”

“Authentic human interactions become impossible when you lose yourself in a role.” 

Resentment


“Resentment is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die.”
- Carrie Fisher
Many of you reading this are probably already feeling an aversion to the topic—none of us likes to admit that other people are better looking than we are or, even worse, that we resent them for it. In fact, many of us don’t admit it, not even to ourselves. Instead, we channel the jealousy into resentment and let it lurk inside of us until the object of it does something that we can interpret maliciously—and then we hate them for that reason. I was inspired to write this post when I got a tearful phone call from a law school friend about how women at her new job don’t like her.
Our lady does well at her job and people think that she has special relation with her boss because she is a woman. Another of her friend got an intership at US and people went so far as to gossip that she has channels in the White house :-)

So, when we resent people this is what we do. We attribute their success to certain things. Yes, I do not refuse that beauty gets things done. But there are smart women too. If you start attributing all the success to a certain genetic factor and start discounting the person's abilities, talents and hard work, that is very wrong. You're simply fooling yourself and I don't know how long one can go on fooling one's self. I do understand that people come in with innate abilities and what takes 8 hours for you may take 2 hours for someone else and it causes frustration. These incidents make you lose your self worth (not really though). Since most of us are quite immature it affects us. This much difference in abilities affects us. We should either be smart enough to place ourself in a place where we fare reasonably well. If the talent pool is so diverse that the difference between me and the best is 10 fold and unbridgeable, I am bound to suffer depression. But, it's wrong to turn it into resentment. Handling depression alone itself is horrific, to hate someone else is even more horrific. But I don't know if that resentment and wrong reasoning totally help us believe in the lie in the first place and continue feeling proud about ourselves. Maybe it's a protection mechanism. I don't know.

But, I write this without much clarity but I write because this is an important topic to brood.

Perspectives on self esteem and job

It's a known fact that having a job gives you a sense of self.. self esteem, self worth and financial independence. Here's a lovely article linking self esteem to your job.

http://www.usatoday.com/story/money/columnist/kay/2013/08/31/at-work-self-esteem-depression
/2736083/

Here's a slightly different view point which says that you need not be your job.

http://blogs.psychcentral.com/panic/2011/11/do-you-define-your-self-worth-through-your-job/


Thoughts and identity


What is thought? Why do different people think of different things? How can I silence the noise in my head? These are questions that I ponder. I saw a podcast yesterday which says that identifying with things is the cause of thoughts. The mind creates identity and the mind is a lie.

Why do we want to escape reality? Why does reality seem mundane and uphill?
Why do we all hope for better things in the future? When that future comes, we are still not satisfied. The mind has deceived us. It has made us move to a new point, only to change the goal again, hasn't it? Why does the mind promise happiness but always makes us unhappy with the present? Somewhere in the context of mind - time plays an important factor. Osho says that time is a product of the mind. While I dig more, here are some interwoven thoughts.

Osho on dreams (daydreaming included) and reality:
We live in a deep illusion – the illusion of hope, of future, of tomorrow. As man is, man cannot exist
without self-deceptions. Nietzsche says somewhere that man cannot live with the true: he needs
dreams, he needs illusions, he needs lies to exist. And Nietzsche is true. As man is he cannot exist
with the truth. This has to be understood very deeply because without understanding it, there can
be no entry into the inquiry which is called yoga.
The mind has to be understood deeply – the mind which needs lies, the mind which needs illusions,
the mind which cannot exist with the real, the mind which needs dreams. You are not dreaming
only in the night. Even while awake, you are dreaming continuously. You may be looking at me, you
may be listening to me, but a dream current goes on within you. Continuously, the mind is creating
dreams, images, fantasies.
Now scientists say that a man can live without sleep, but he cannot live without dreams. In old
days it was understood that sleep is a necessity, but now modern research says sleep is not really
a necessity. Sleep is needed only so that you can dream. Dream is the necessity.


Identification:
http://podbay.fm/show/347854569/e/1360042790 
Mind manufactures identity.

Quieten the mind:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e2EPuGabgpc

Ego and identifications:

Eckhart Tolle
“The most common ego identifications have to do with possessions, the work you do, social status and recognition, knowledge and education, physical appearance, special abilities, relationships, person and family history, belief systems, and often nationalistic, racial, religious, and other collective identifications. None of these is you.”

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Mvsfn8LL92Q

Thoughts and identifications:
 

Monday, September 15, 2014

The journey of 2 souls

Last week brought in a different flavour.
My sis was almost breaking down about how to organize her daughter's bday party. She has a newborn and no help.
She was in an emotional weakspot and quite drained.
I was also scared how she will manage.
But then, she did something smart. She put aside the negativity and planned a menu and asked for small help and got things done. She did all the work and now she feels awesome.

For all of us, we feel good only when we can do what we aim to do and what we are capable of doing. But those emotional turmoils that we go through totally derail and decapacitate us.
It may seem silly but we go through so many turbulences and conflicts. There are conflicting voices in our head that drive us crazy.

And through all this journey of hers I realized two things.
a) Sometimes you do someone great service by not being there. It's an art to know when to be there for a friend and also when to leave them alone. You're enabling them by leaving them alone. But when they are in the dark, you stand there to support them.
b) As humans we go through struggles. We all have our battles and demons.
The beauty of a relation is in sharing a human's struggle. Seeing them fight wars and win them.
You see them come out of a situation, changed, battered but better. You witness the "change".
That is human relation. That is bond...these moments when we're there for each other, witnessing each other's journey, is the core of relations. It's these journeys we share, that make life worthwhile. You see the seed to flower journey of a person.. you see the rocks becoming diamonds...you root for them.. you cry with them..

The hardest thing is change.. changing one's self. It requires courage and effort and most of us are not willing to put that. We falter. We succumb.
Tis these shared journeys that make life worthwhile.





Dance of the genders

ஆண்-பெண் இடையிலான உறவுமுறைக்குள் இருக்கின்ற எதிர்பார்ப்புகளை அவர்கள் தேவதைகளையும், கடவுளையுமே திருமணம் செய்து கொண்டாலும் கூட நிறைவேற்ற முடியாது. தோற்றுப் போவார்கள்....!!
சத்குரு

Sunday, September 14, 2014

Osho on being in the present and doing art


Osho Dynamic

http://www.oshodynamic.com/source-of-creativity.html

The Source of Creativity by Osho

In this world of consciousness, nothing is so helpful as celebration. Celebration is like watering a plant. Worry is just the opposite of celebration; it is just like cutting the roots.
Feel happy! Dance with your silence. This moment it is there – enough! Why ask for more? Tomorrow will take care of itself. This moment is too much; why not live it, celebrate it, share it, enjoy it? Let it become a song, a dance, a poetry; let it be creative. Let your silence be creative; do something with it.
Millions of things are possible because nothing is more creative than silence.
No need to become a very great painter, world-famous, a Picasso. No need to become a Henry Moore; no need to become a great poet. Those ambitions of being great are of the mind, not of the silence.
In your own way, howsoever small, paint. In your own way, howsoever small, make a haiku. In your own way, howsoever small, sing a song, dance a little, celebrate, and you will find the next moment brings more silence.
Once you know that the more you celebrate, the more is given to you, the more you share, the more you become capable of receiving it…. Each moment it goes on growing, growing. And the next moment is always born out of this moment, so why worry about it? If this moment is silent, how the next moment can be chaos? From where will it come? It is going to be born out of this moment.
If I am happy this moment, how in the next moment can I be unhappy?
If you want the next moment to be unhappy, you will have to become unhappy in this moment, because out of unhappiness, unhappiness is born; out of happiness, happiness is born. Whatsoever you want to reap in the next moment, you will have to sow right now. Once the worry is allowed and you start thinking that chaos will come, it will come; you have already brought it. Now you will have to reap it; it has already come. No need to wait for the next moment; it is already there. Remember this.
It is so rare to achieve a moment of happiness, bliss – don't waste it in thinking.
Energy has to be creative. If you don't use it for happiness, the same energy will be used for unhappiness. And for unhappiness you have such deep-rooted habits that the energy flow is very loose and natural. For happiness it is an uphill task.
Only this moment is left, pure, intense with energy. Live it! If it is silence, be grateful. If it is blissful, thank existence, trust it. And if you can trust, it will grow.
Osho, "Yoga: The Alpha and Omega"
 
 
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Happy for No Reason

Talk #2 of the Series, The Discipline of Transcendence, Vol. 2
"It is not only you, who is continuously daydreaming; everybody is doing that. Human mind as such is a daydreaming faculty. Unless you go beyond the mind, you will continue to daydream. Because the mind cannot exist in the present. It can either exist in the past or in the future. There is no way for the mind to exist in the present. To be in the present is to be without mind.
"You try it. If there is a silent moment when no thought is crossing your being, your consciousness, when the screen of consciousness is absolutely unclouded, then suddenly you are in the present. That is the moment, the real moment – the moment of reality, the moment of truth. But then there is no past and no future.
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
future."
"Ordinarily, time is divided into these three tenses: past, present, future. The division is basically wrong, unscientific. Because present is not part of time. Past and future only are parts of time. Present is beyond time. Present is eternity.
"Past and future are part of time. Past is that which is no more, and future is that which is not yet. Both are non-existential. Present is that which is. The existential cannot be a part of the non-existential. They never meet, they never cross each other's way. And time is mind; past accumulated is what your mind is.
"What is your mind? Analyze it, look into it. What is it? – just the past experiences piled up, accumulated. Your mind is just a blanket term, an umbrella term; it simply keeps, holds, your whole past. It is nothing else. If by and by you take your past out of the bag, the bag will disappear.
"If past is the only reality for the mind, then what can the mind do? One possibility is that it can go on chewing, re-chewing the past again and again. That's what you call memory, remembrance, nostalgia. You go again and again backwards; again and again to the past moments, beautiful moments, happy moments. They are few and far between, but you cling to them. You avoid the ugly moments, the miserable moments.
"But this you cannot do continuously because this is futile; the activity seems to be meaningless. The mind creates a 'meaningful' activity – that's what daydreaming about the future is.
"The mind says, 'Yes, past is good, but past is finished; nothing can be done about it. Something can be done about the future because it is yet to come.' So you choose out of your past experiences those which you would like to repeat again, and you drop experiences that were very miserable, painful; that you don't want to repeat in the future.
"So your future dreaming is nothing but past modified, better arranged, more decorated, more agreeable, less painful, more pleasant. This your mind goes on doing. And this way you go on missing reality.
"Meditation simply means a few moments when you are not in the mind, a few moments when you slip out of the mind."

Saturday, September 13, 2014

Osho on moment to moment living

  1. Abandon all future, and start living moment to moment rejoicing in the small things of life.

  2. Start living this moment and you will see that the more you live, the less problems there are.

  3. A buddha lives moment to moment — and if you start living moment to moment, you become a buddha. This is the answer: live moment to moment and you become a buddha. A buddha is one who lives moment to moment, who does not live in the past, who does not live in the future, who lives here now. Buddhahood is a quality of being present here and now — and buddhahood is not a goal, you need not wait, you can become just here and now.

  4. Live in the moment for the sheer joy of living it. Then each moment has the quality of an orgasm. Yes, it is orgasmic. This is how my sannyasins have to live, with no should, with no ought, with no must, with no commandment. You are not here to be with me to become martyrs, you are here to be with me to enjoy life to its fullness. And the only way to live, love, enjoy, is to forget the future. It exists not.

  5. God is available only when you are unburdened. But they will never know. They will knock at the doors of temples but they will never know where the real temple exists. The real temple is freedom: dying moment to moment to the past and living the present. And freedom to move, to move into the dark, into the unknown — that is the door to the divine!

  6. Those two words, “Live dangerously,” are significant. Sannyas is a way to live your life in total danger. What do I mean when I say sannyas is living dangerously? It means living moment to moment without any past. The past makes your life convenient, comfortable, because the past is known; you are familiar with it, you are very efficient with it. But life is never past, it is always present. The past is that which is no more, and life is that which is. Life is always now, here, and all your knowledge comes from the past. Trying to live the present through the past is the way of the coward; it is the calculated way. People call it sanity, but it is very superficial and never adequate. There is no rapport with the present.

  7. You are always given a single moment; you are not given two moments together. If you know the secret of living one moment, you know the whole secret of life. Because you will always get one moment — and you know how to live it, how to be totally in it.

  8. Whenever you live in total awareness you live moment to moment. You cannot plan, even for the next moment you cannot plan — because who knows, the next moment may never come! And how can you plan it beforehand, because who knows what the situation will be in the next moment? And if you plan too much you may miss it, the freshness of it. Life is such a flux, nothing remains the same, everything moves.

  9. Just live the moment with intensity and totality. Live it with as much joy as possible, with as much love as possible, with no fear, no guilt. This existence is yours and this moment is a gift — don’t let it go to waste. And don’t be worried about enlightenment, the moon. This moment, living totally, is enlightenment.

  10. The spontaneous man is the way to the real man, to the essential man, to the God within. You cannot decide direction, you can only live this moment that is available to you. By living it, direction arises. If you dance, the next moment is going to be of a deeper dance. Not that you decide but you simply dance this moment. You have created a direction: you are not manipulating it. The next moment will be more full of dancing, and still more will be following.

  11. Live when life is there. Be committed to the earth while on the earth; die when death comes. Move with life and move with death. Dying, don’t cling to life. Dying, don’t resist death; dying, die. Living, live; dying, die. Let the moment be total. Float with it, be committed to it. When death comes, then don’t be sad. Then accept death. Then accept it with such totality that even death cannot kill you. A total person cannot be killed, and a divided person never lives. A total person is already beyond death.

  12. I don’t promise you anything. I don’t promise you the kingdom of God, I don’t promise you enlightenment — I don’t promise at all. My whole approach is of living moment to moment; enlightened or unenlightened, what does it matter? Living moment to moment joyously, ecstatically, living moment to moment totally, intensely, passionately…. If one lives passionately, the ego dissolves. If one is total in one’s acts, the ego is BOUND to dissolve. It is like when a dancer goes on and on dancing: a moment comes when only the dance remains and the dancer disappears. That is the moment of enlightenment.

  13. You have to learn the methods of flowing like a river with existence, each moment. Die each moment to the past, and be born each moment to the new. Unless that becomes your religion, you are going to be in trouble, and your society is going to be in trouble.

  14. My vision is that of a goalless life. That is the vision of all the buddhas. Everything simply is, for no reason at all. Everything simply is utterly absurd. If this is understood, then where is the hurry, and for what? Then you start living moment to moment. Then this moment is given to you, a gracious gift from God or the whole or whatsoever you want to call it — Tao, dhamma, logos. This moment is available to you: sing a song, live it in its totality. And don’t try to sacrifice it for any other moment that is going to come in the future. Live it for its own sake.

  15. Relaxation means you don’t have any shoulds. You are simply living moment to moment, not according to some future idea of yourself, but according to your reality that is herenow. To live with the reality, moment to moment, is to be sane. To live with the idea is to be insane. The whole earth has become almost a madhouse because of these perfectionists. Perfectionism is a sort of madness; only mad people try to be perfectionists. Sane people never try to be perfectionists.

  16. The word tathata is of great profundity. A man who understands what tathata is becomes undisturbed in every situation; nothing can disturb him, he becomes unperturbable. And TATHAGAT means one who has been living moment-to-moment in tathata. Tathagat is one of the most beautiful words possible in any language: one who lives simply according to his nature without being bothered about other people’s nature.

  17. Buddha says: Learn sitting silently — become a mirror. Silence makes a mirror out of your consciousness, and then you function moment to moment. You reflect life. You don’t carry an album within your head. Then your eyes are clear and innocent, you have clarity, you have vision, and you are never untrue to life. This is authentic living.

  18. Millions live in the past, and the remaining millions live in the future, and it is very rare to find a person who lives herenow. But that is the real person, that is the person who is really alive. Life needs only one thing: to be rooted in the present. There is nowhere else for it to be rooted. Past is memory, future is imagination; both are unreal. The real is this moment — thisness.

  19. The way of living unconsciously is called by Buddha the dark way. And the way of living consciously, attentively, moment to moment, bringing your consciousness to each act, each small act, each detail, is the way of light.

  20. The buddha is awake even while he is asleep. He has no compartments in his being. He is not many, he is one. Because he is one and he has no clinging to memories and no desires for the future, the present is enough for him. Then he lives moment to moment in its totality; he does not go on living partially. Your dreams simply show that you live partially, and the unlived parts have to be lived in your dreams. If you live totally each moment, then there is no possibility of any dreams.

  21. Just being herenow, just living moment to moment with no ideology, with no utopia. The real sannyasin, the real mystic, is not against the past, is not for the future. He is so utterly absorbed by the present that he has no time, no energy, for the past and the future. This is how the rebel is born.

  22. Nobody, not even you yourself, knows what is going to happen in the next moment. You start living moment to moment. The calculation is gone. the planning disappears, you float like a white cloud in the sky: moving but without any motivation; moving but not knowing where you are going; moving but remaining in the moment, so totally herenow that past and future make no sense, only present is meaningful.

  23. Never plan for the future, because when the future will come, it will come. You just go on living each moment as totally as possible, so when the future becomes present you can live that, too — totally. Don’t plan for it, because it is unpredictable. All your planning is going to be irrelevant. And once you have planned for something and it doesn’t happen, then you are frustrated. And it never happens.

  24. Heaven is not somewhere else: it is a way of living. So is hell — a style of life. Hell is living unconsciously; heaven is living consciously. Hell is your own creation, so is heaven. If you go on living unconsciously, through your unconscious desires, instincts, motives — of which you are not the master but only the victim — then you create hell around yourself. But if you start living a conscious life, a life of bringing more and more light to the deep, dark corners of your being, if you start living full of light, your life is moment-to-moment ecstasy.

  25. My sannyas is spontaneity, living moment to moment without any prefabricated discipline, living with the unknown, not exactly knowing where you are going. Because if you know already where you are going you are dead. Then life runs in a mechanical way. A life should be a flow from the known towards the unknown. One should be dying each moment to the known so the unknown can penetrate you. And only the unknown liberates.

  26. You are nothing but your past. What are you? Just a collection of the past. Drop your past, and you are not. The ego is nothing but a collective name for your whole past; and when you don’t live in the past, you start living egolessly. Then moment to moment you go on dying to the past, you go on renouncing the past, and each moment you are fresh, young, virgin. And in that virginity is God.

  27. There is no goal of life, for the simple reason that life is its own goal. The goal is intrinsic, not something outside; not there, far away, but herenow, in this very moment. The very idea of goal is future-oriented. The moment you start living for a goal you stop living in the present, in the immediate. The goal becomes more important. Tomorrow becomes more important, and you have to sacrifice today for tomorrow; and the trouble is, tomorrow never comes, has never come, is not going to come ever. But you go on sacrificing your today — which is your only treasure, which is all that you have got. You risk that which you have for that which is only a mind desire.

  28. Life has no goal because life is its own goal. Drop all goals. Drop the very idea of future. Forget completely that there is going to be a tomorrow. Collect yourself from every dimension and direction. Be concentrated herenow, and in that single moment you will be able to know life in its eternity. Then the hunger for living, and living forever, will not be there. Tasting life in a single moment makes you aware that life is eternal. There is no need to desire it, it is already eternal.
Source: http://spotitup.blogspot.in/2012/08/osho-quotes-on-moment-to-moment-living.html

Self esteem - a monument you build

My philosophy classmate Shashank helped me get to this blog.
It's such a wonderful blog.

I read so much about girls and insecurity here.
I could identify with the girl's journey.
She redefined smartness for me.
She ruthlessly leads us to love ourselves.

I am surprised that so many people, all over the world, live a life of self hatred.
How on earth did self hatred become such a common thing?
How does it start? At what age do we pick up this wrong, disastrous habit of hating oneself?

Nevertheless, I was quite impressed by Isa's writing. It touched a chord and many things she has written, resonated with my life's incidents.
I consider myself extremely lucky that I did not have any distractions in school. I finished with top grades and I got to work. If I had been caught in this maze of things, I would have died of heart break. Thank heavens for that.

http://everydayisa.wordpress.com/2013/07/18/on-building-a-monument/
http://everydayisa.wordpress.com/2012/10/04/smart-girls/
http://everydayisa.wordpress.com/2013/09/27/girls-like-me/

Love...

Friday, September 12, 2014

Humans of New York author speaks about media

http://www.ted.com/talks/amy_cuddy_your_body_language_shapes_who_you_are?share=1c3432f326#t-916940

What the media portrays is not representative of the society. The media shows us what we're interested in. They show us stories that capture human attention - sex, violence, crime, danger.
99.99% lives are uninteresting. The media does not show that.


Monday, September 8, 2014

Blue and the connection to India's cultural values - Hilarious

My neighbour wants me to write a condolence message. What was the misfortune? A certain toothpaste brand that fooled her. People get attracted to diamonds - whether its in a necklace or in a toothpaste. The so called "patented blue light technology", according to her is caused by the addition of Ujala to a regular toothpaste, where the blue tinge makes teeth APPEAR whiter. The patented technology left her teeth feeling like a soiled white shirt dipped in blue She is so inconsolable that I plan to sue the brand for such fake promises
Ditch the diamond, I say.. But lady, I am proud of you. Your analysis could have won you a Nobel. Read below:
"Blues, or optical brighteners, contain a blue dye or pigment or a solution of fine blue powder. During the washing process, the fabric picks up the blue color, which makes it 'appear' whiter. Optical brighteners work on the principle that 'white with a little blue tint appears to be brighter'."

On further investigation I found that she was right. She's not a science graduate but she guessed it right! So, if anyone spends enough time with something, they can understand it. That's the lesson.
 

About Fabric Whiteners

Fabric whiteners, which are classified as 'laundry aids,' complement the use of detergents by making clothes whiter. Fabric whiteners can be further classified as bleaches and blues. Bleaches whiten and brighten fabrics and help remove stubborn stains by converting the dirt into colorless, soluble particles that can be easily removed by detergents. A variety of different bleaches, with different chemical compositions, are available in the market (Refer Table I).
TABLE I
DIFFERENT TYPES OF BLEACHES
Type of bleach
 Use
 Best as…
Chlorine (Liquid or Gel)
 Removes stains, whitens and brightens; repeated use weakens fabrics
 Disinfectant, whitener
Hydrogen Peroxide
 Removes stains, whitens
 Milder solution able to whiten fabrics
Oxygen
 Removes stains;
 Safe for most colored fabrics
Color removers
 Reduce or completely removes colored dyes from apparel
 Removing rust or dye stains from white apparel
Source: Kansas State University Agricultural Experiment Station and Cooperative Extension Service.
Blues, or optical brighteners, contain a blue dye or pigment or a solution of fine blue powder. During the washing process, the fabric picks up the blue color, which makes it 'appear' whiter. Optical brighteners work on the principle that 'white with a little blue tint appears to be brighter4' (if two similar white fabrics are kept under a spectrograph, the one with a blue tint would appear brighter).

The popularity of blues in India is rooted in the country's societal system and cultural values. The cleanliness of clothes has traditionally been regarded as an indicator of the efficiency of the housekeeper, that is, the lady of the house. Consequently, most of the detergents in the country were sold on the 'our product washes the whitest' platform. A majority of the detergent and washing soap advertisements emphasized whiteness and featured literally 'shining' white clothes as a symbol of the housewife's prowess.

4] The human eye sees objects because of the light reflected by them. When light falls on an object, it absorbs the full spectrum of the light and throws back only a part of it. The color of an object is perceived according to the part of the spectrum reflected by it. The blue tint on white fabrics absorbs the yellow part of the spectrum, thereby making the yellowish tint invisible. This makes the cloth look whiter.

Perspectives on various people

Sunday, September 7, 2014

Baradwaj Rangan on tagging and the ice bucket irritation

http://baradwajrangan.wordpress.com/2014/09/06/not-an-ice-guy/

Not an ice guy

Grouchy reflections on the ALS ice bucket challenge and the changing, um, face of Facebook.
I must confess that I have begun to dread logging into Facebook. I am afraid there’s going to be another tagging epidemic, egging me to do something crazy in order to do some good: Go to work dressed like Barbie and promote your local Kho Kho team. Eat nothing but red chillies for a week in order to encourage donations to save the California condor. Order a pizza and greet the delivery guy naked in a bid to popularise Carnatic music. (And make sure you post videos – except maybe of the last-mentioned.) Don’t smirk. If getting doused by a bucket of ice water can promote awareness of amyotrophic lateral sclerosis (ALS), then what’s stopping an enterprising fund raiser from suggesting that you drink coffee while hopping, without spilling a drop, and then make out a cheque to repair the hole in the ozone layer?
I’m all for jazzing up charity, and yay to the ALS folks for transforming the act of altruism into something that makes you look less like Mother Teresa and more like Mel Brooks. But it’s the pressure, dammit – it’s killing. Now, if I don’t take up the challenge and douse myself with ice water, but nevertheless write out a cheque for a lakh, I still end up looking like the kind of grouch Dickens would write a Christmas-time story on, while all those hi-fiving dudes who posed happily for videos while emptying buckets over themselves (and contributed, say, ten bucks) come off looking like people who’ll go on to save the rainforest, while simultaneously eradicating poverty and giving hope to gay teens. Because, apparently, nothing says you care about society better than offering your shivering body as host to a passing cold virus.

Now you could say that, instead of all this agonising, just go ahead and pour that damn bucket on yourself and be done with it. But is it really that easy? I live in a flat, on the second floor, and I’m already quaking at the prospect of the house help walking in and finding that she has, in addition to her chores, an icy puddle to mop up. (You don’t know mortal fear until you imagine a negotiation with your maid in the middle of her packed morning.) Second, water makes you wet, and wet clothes stick to the body, and some bodies are clearly not meant to be presented to the world with their contours clearly outlined. Third, what if I accept the challenge and some friends walk in and say “Let’s have a drink” and I discover all the ice is gone? Yes, I know what you’re thinking, that no one’s going to walk in during the day and demand a drink. But then you don’t know my friends.
Once upon a time, Facebook used to be fun. It was entertainment, the online answer to a Manmohan Desai movie. The lost-and-found formula was very much in effect. We found the Amars, the Akbars, the Anthonys we’d lost after school and college. We messaged them and slipped into happy flashbacks about the good old days. We went into their photo albums and rummaged through their lives, silently judging them while emptying packets of Kurkure – job (“looks kinda boring”), spouse (“heard of a gym”?), children (“are they really theirs”?), vacations (“stop taking selfies and let me see the place”), their friends we didn’t know but were still curious about even though it was none of our bloody business (“thank heavens I have better-looking friends”)… But now, the spirit of Mrinal Sen seems to have invaded Facebook, with a whiff of politics and the insistence that we are but atoms of the social molecule, and we cannot afford to be spinning in our own cosy orbits.

The other tagging epidemic that’s plaguing Facebook recently induced an equal amount of hand-wringing. It is about ten books that left an impression on you. Now, Facebook being a public forum and all, I couldn’t possibly include Penthouse Letters (the ultimate self-help manual for teenage boys) and What’s Your Poo Telling You (the older you get, the more obsessed you become with bodily functions) – and I had to think of books that were high on literary value, or ennobling in some way. In other words, even if I did want to list a book that sounded like it belonged in the bathroom, it would have had to be It’s Time For a Bowel Movement: Eliminating Waste That Lies Within the Soul. (That really is the name of a book.) So I started a list that included Heidegger and Wittgenstein. The rule on Facebook is to always appear loftier than you are, even if your mind is ravaged by the image of Scarlett Johansson in lacy lingerie, taking the ice bucket challenge.

Non demanding tasks, creativity and unconscious thoughts

From:
http://nautil.us/issue/16/nothingness/how-to-waste-time-properly
Even seemingly meaningless activities such as watching cat videos on YouTube may help you solve math problems.
“engaging in simple external tasks that allow the mind to wander may facilitate creative problem solving.”

"Doing a non-demanding task was actually better than doing nothing,”
"if you’re engaged in a non-demanding task, it kind of prevents you from having long trains of thought,”

Decision-related neural processes were occurring during moments of “unconscious thought.” in fMRI.

The neural regions responsible for unconscious thought continue to process previously recorded information, which results in unconscious decision-making that can be “called up to consciousness” when needed. In layman’s terms, it means that we’re capable of paying explicit attention to one thing (cat videos) while resolving another (complex math problems). “Brief periods of unconscious thought can improve decision-making,”

Things that are mood uplifting lead to enhanced creativity. And two, it provides a non-demanding break.

When people take a break at work and get on Facebook, it becomes an ego-driven experience.


The eternal spring

Shan Re’s latest exhibition, The Eternal Spring, is meant to convey a sense of rebirth, renewal, and transformation

When Shan Re experiences an irresistible urge to paint, her brain works fast. “I follow my instinct and the creative energy flows through me without conscious effort,” says the artist, whose new paintings are her melodies.
Shan calls these melodies The Eternal Spring, a belief that life is an opportunity to create meaning. “To me life is an empty canvas and I have an irresistible desire to make it colourful. I always stay in touch with my inner rhythm. When I remain open, energies from unseen sources flow naturally and point me in the right direction, leading me into the process,” she says, adding, “Everything stems from fragmented thoughts and subconscious forces. I’m like a sponge absorbing the right energy all the time and I always try to bring that raw energy into my art. As a person every thought and action of mine is well balanced and controlled, but as an artist my impulse dominates me; nothing is in my control. My work is a reminder of how positive energy brings joy and hope to the challenges of our human experience.”
This positive energy, The Eternal Spring is meant to convey a sense of rebirth, renewal, opportunity, hope and transformation. “An eternal optimist like me is a human personification of spring,” says Shan, adding, “Life is a flow of events where storms are inevitable. Every storm touches you somewhere, making you stronger. I’m always open to the gifts, possibilities and messages of nature and make the effort to gain insight and rejuvenate myself with fresh energy. I enjoy and treasure my inner harmony remaining unaffected in the face of both success and failure; love and hatred; pain and pleasure. This is the essence of what I continuously strive to portray in my work.”
Shan acknowledges that her works as emotive eruptions of herself. From within herself, she finds her muse. “My inner fire is my driving force. My confidence is my strength. The empty canvas is my valued friend, muse and trusted companion where all my subconscious thoughts, feelings, fantasies, memories and hopes escape into pure colour, providing me with on-going guidance that keeps me in the flow,” she says.
Like an unrestrained child with big dreams, Shan’s heart has an unfailing appetite, which says: ‘what next?’ Melodies of the Eternal Spring beckon.
The Eternal Spring will be on view at the Ritz Carlton till September 10.

The way of Tao

OSHO : Tao The Three Treasures, Volume 4, Chapter 9
Lao Tzu says:
There is nothing weaker than water but none is superior to it in overcoming the hard, for which there is no substitute. That weakness overcomes strength and gentleness overcomes rigidity, no one does not know; no one can put into practice.

Therefore the sage says: Who receives unto himself the calumny of the world is the preserver of the state. Who bears himself the sins of the world is the king of the world.

Straight words seem crooked.

It is said that God created Adam but Adam was dead. Then God breathed in him and he became alive.
The same story is told in many creation myths all over the world: Christian, Hindu, Jewish and many others.
The story seems to be very significant. The meaning is that when you breathe, you don't breathe, God breathes in you. The whole breathes in you. This has to be understood very deeply because the whole method of Tao, the whole science of Yoga, depends on breath.
Because this is going to be the last lecture on Lao Tzu I would like to tell you everything about the system so that if you want you can move into it; not only think about it but become one with it.
The breath is the most important thing. With it life starts and with it life ends. It is the most mysterious thing; without it there is no possibility of life.
Life seems just a shadow of breath. When breath disappears, life disappears. So this phenomenon of breathing has to be understood.
Every child born is not really alive until he breathes. He has just a few moments left. If he breathes after the birth, in those few moments life enters. If he does not breathe he will remain dead.
Those first few moments of life are the most important. The doctors, the parents, all become concerned when a child is born. Will he breathe? Will he cry and start breathing? Or will he remain dead? Again, as in all the myths created, in every man Adam is born again.
The child cannot breathe on his own. To expect that is impossible because the child does not know how to breathe, nobody has taught him. This is going to be his first act, so this cannot be his act.
Let me repeat it: This is going to be his first and the most significant act -- that's why it cannot be his act. If God does it -- okay; if God is not willing -- finished.
The whole has to breathe in him, that's why those few moments are full with suspense, doubt, apprehension, fear -- because both possibilities are still open. The child can remain dead. Then nothing can be done. The child cannot do anything, the parents cannot do anything, the doctors cannot do anything; humanity is helpless. It is up to the whole.
Only prayer can be done. We can only wait in deep prayer. If the whole moves into the child, the child becomes alive, otherwise not.
This first breath is taken by the whole. And if the first breath is taken by the whole then everything else which depends on breathing cannot be your act. If you think you are breathing then you have taken a very wrong step. And because of this wrong step ego will be created. Ego is accumulated ignorance.
You missed. You have not been breathing, the whole has breathed into you, but you have taken it as if you are breathing.
The first act of breath bridges you with the whole, makes you one with the whole, and all that follows will not be your activity; all that is going to happen after this first breath till you die, till the last breath, is going to be the activity of the whole. The whole will live within you.
You can think that you are doing all those things -- then you live in ignorance. If you become aware that the whole is doing everything, you are being possessed by the whole, breathed by it, you are just a hollow bamboo, a flute, the sound comes from the whole, the whole life comes from it -- then you live a life of enlightenment.
This is the only difference between ignorance and enlightenment.
One step in error, that: "I have done it!" -- and the whole journey goes wrong. One step right, that: "The whole has been doing it in me, I am not the doer, I am just the field of his play, a flute of his songs, a reed, nothing more, an emptiness in which he flows, moves, lives!" -- then you live a totally different life, a life of light and bliss.
This is the first act, this breath. Many more things have to be understood about it.
If life starts with breath, and death also, and everything is between these two, then yoga, Tao, tantra, and all sciences of inner alchemy, cannot neglect breathing.
Yoga calls it prana. That word is beautiful. Yoga calls breathing prana. Prana means the elan vital, the very vitality of your being.
It is not just air coming and going through your lungs. Yoga says the air is just the outer layer of it. Hidden deep in that layer is vitality.
So breathing has two parts. One: the body of breathing, made up of oxygen, nitrogen and so on, and, two: the spirit of breathing, made up of vitality, God himself.
It is like your body is there, and you, your consciousness, is hidden deep down in your body. The body is a protection, a vehicle. The body is the visible vehicle for the non-visible you. And the same is the case with every breath. The breath itself is just the outer layer; hidden deep in it is life itself.
Once you discover that God himself is hidden in breath, you have come to know yourself. That's why there is so much insistence and so much search in yoga, Tao and tantra about breathing. If you simply go on breathing and thinking that this is just air coming in and going out you will never be able to penetrate the mystery of it. And you will remain completely oblivious of yourself. Then you will remain rooted in the body. You will never be able to know that which goes beyond the body, that which is within but yet beyond, that which is hidden in the body but not obstructed by the body, not limited by the body. A beyond within.
In each breath that life has to be discovered.
Yoga calls those methods pranayama. The word pranayama means expansion of life. One has to expand life to infinity in each breath.
Buddha has called his own methods of discovering the innermost core of breath anapana-sati yoga: the yoga, the science, of incoming and outgoing breath; and Buddha has said no other yoga is needed. If you can deeply watch your own breathing, and watch so meditatively that anything that is hidden in the breath does not remain hidden but becomes revealed, you will come to know all.
That looks simple, but it is difficult.
Buddha said to his monks: "Sitting, walking, standing, whatsoever you are doing, go on doing these things, but let your consciousness be aware of the breath coming in, going out. Go on looking at your own breath -- one day with the very continuous hammering on the breath, the temple opens."
The God is hidden in the temple of the breath. Suddenly one day you become aware that it is not just air. If for you it is just air, you have a scientific mind but you don't have the awareness which can reveal the innermost core of it. Then you can analyze and come to know how much oxygen is needed, how much hydrogen, how much nitrogen, how much carbon dioxide, and you can go on playing with the body of the breath -- but you missed the innermost real phenomenon.
That's why, if a man is dead, you can give him, pump into him, the right proportion of oxygen, but he will not be alive.
Unless God breathes in it, unless it contains the innermost consciousness of the whole, it is a dead breath. Oxygen will pass through the lungs -- nothing will happen.
Breath is the first action -- and it is not your action.
The second action is thirst. That too is not your action. What do you do to feel thirsty? If it happens, it happens; if it doesn't happen, it doesn't happen. Can you try to feel thirsty? That is impossible! It happens deep inside you. God breathes in you, God feels thirsty in you -- or the whole does; when I say God I mean the whole. The part is just a part.
After the child has taken his first breath the second phenomenon will arise in him -- and now there is going to be a chain, and the whole chain has to be understood.
Thirst will arise. Then hunger will arise. Then there will be a need for physical activity. Then sex will arise. Then there will be a need for mental activity. Then love will arise. Then there will be a need for aesthetic activity: poetry, painting, music.... These are eight activities. And then the ninth, the last, arises: the need for spiritual activity -- meditation, samadhi.
And this is the beauty of the whole phenomenon -- that the ninth is again the first, because the ninth again pays attention to breath. The circle is complete. First is breath, ninth is again breath; that's why no spiritual science can neglect breathing. Even God can be neglected -- Buddhism does not believe in God, does not believe in soul -- that can be neglected; but breathing cannot be neglected.
Mohammedans and Christians may be having different conceptions of God, Hindus again different, Jains...but nobody can neglect breathing. Breathing is first and breathing is going to be last. Spiritual activity is coming back again to the first breath, to the original purity.
Now I would like to discuss all these phenomena, because that is your whole life.
First is breath, second thirst, third hunger. There are people who finish at the third, who think: eat, drink, be merry is all. Their life is not complete; they cannot feel fulfillment because the circle is not complete. Fulfillment means that you have completed the circle, the last has joined with the first -- then there is fulfillment.
People who you find fulfilled are a circle, not a line. A line is always incomplete. All desires move in a line, that's why no desire can ever be complete, because no desire moves in a circle. It is linear. It always moves, but is always incomplete.
Wherever you stop -- ten thousand rupees or ten million rupees, it makes no difference; wherever you stop, you are hanging. The thing is not complete; something is missing. You can become rich, you can become very powerful, but it will not be contentment. Contentment is only when your life energy becomes a circle.
Have you watched how the whole existence moves in a circle? The seasons move in a circle, the stars move in a circle, suns and planets move in a circle, the whole moves circularly, as a wheel? In life, in existence, nothing is linear. Everything is circular. And if you want to live a life of the whole you have to follow the ways of the whole: move like seasons, move like stars. Become a circle. When I say become a circle I mean come back to the original source.
Breath, thirst, hunger -- these are the first three steps. If you move only up to the third you have not entered the temple, you will be on the steps.
The fourth is physical activity. There are people who go up to the fourth. To them, physical activity becomes a sort of meditation.
In fact everything can become a sort of meditation, because in everything there are two dimensions -- just as there are in the first breath: the outer and the inner.
That's why fasting has been used. To fast is to try to discover in hunger the other dimension. Fasting means an effort to move into the desire of hunger and to come to know that; the divine. That's why fasting became so important in so many religions. It can give you a glimpse.
If you fast long the glimpse is possible. But I am not in support of it because you are not making the whole circle. You are jumping, not moving gracefully. From the third, hunger, you are trying to reach the first. It will be a small circle, not the whole compass of life. It will not be very comprehensive. It will not be very rich.
That's why people who have attained to any spirituality by fasting you will always find a little stupid. Moving among Jaina monks for many years I was suddenly surprised: I had never come across a really intelligent man. They all looked stupid.
The reason is deep. The reason is: they have been depending on fasting. They are trying to find a short-cut. Beware of short-cuts. Life doesn't like short-cuts because then you can move to the source without growing. You bribe, you don't grow. From hunger you can jump -- that means without knowing the whole complexity of life, the life of sex, love, aesthetic activity. You remain impoverished.
What I am saying is a fact -- you can go and look at Jaina monks; they are pure people, but stupid. Nobody can say anything against their purity. Pure they are, sincere they are, serious they are, but they have chosen a short-cut. They have been trying to bribe existence and reach home before their time. One can reach, but one will reach without growing, without maturity. A certain type of childishness you will find in them. Purity, but not enlightenment.
The fourth is physical activity. You can move from the fourth again -- from any point you can move to the source, you can drop out of the journey of the total circle.
Physical activity has been used by hatha yoga. Hatha yoga developed a total science out of it: how to move just by physical activity, by sheer physical force, to the source.
Hatha yogis are powerful people, they have control over their bodies -- nobody can claim that much control. They can lie down underneath the earth for months, even for years.
One fakir in Egypt remained underground for forty years. The people who had buried him all died. And he had told them: "After forty years you should open my tomb, break the seal and open the door of my underground chamber. And after forty years I'll be coming back -- alive."
People who knew about him by and by died. In fact, he was forgotten. It was just a coincidence that somebody was doing some research work and was looking in old newspapers and there he found the news.
He was buried in 1880. And in 1920 he was discovered. The tomb was opened -- he was alive. And he lived three years more after it; and he was perfectly healthy.
Many cases with fakirs and hatha yogis are known: they can take any sort of poison and it will not mix in their system. It will go in their stomach and they will throw it in the urine, but it will not mix anywhere. X-rays have been taken and it seems miraculous that the poison passes through not mixing with anything in the body. There seems to be a subtle protection around the blood.
By sheer willpower, by sheer physical force, hatha yogis have attained many things. But nothing of spirituality, nothing of real growth. If you look in their faces you will find them almost dead. If you look in their eyes you will not find the glimmer of intelligence, understanding.
Physical activity can sometimes also give you a feeling, a glimpse. Running fast, completely absorbed in running so that the whole energy has become running, suddenly you can have glimpses of the original being. Beautiful. That's why so many people become attracted to athletics. It gives glimpses.
There are reports that people on the front in war sometimes attain to glimpses of the origin.
That may be one of the causes of the attraction of war, because in violence, in deep violence, your physical capacity is used to the utmost. And when the physical capacity is used to the utmost suddenly you relax -- back to the first state. You become like a child.
This has been my experience with many soldiers. I have many followers in the army. They are innocent people -- more innocent than people who are in the market, more innocent than business men, a childlike quality is in them because they are doing so much physical activity the whole energy is absorbed, they cannot be cunning. Even generals are childish, simple. That's why soldiers can follow any type of order -- even foolish orders. If you tell them to jump and die, they will die, because they have been trained to follow; they will not give a second thought to it. They are just like children.
But again the circle is not complete. You have jumped from the middle.
After the fourth is the fifth, sex. If you really move deep in sex you will have glimpses of satori, of samadhi. Just between physical activity and sex the half circle is complete -- that's why sex is so important. Between the physical activity and sex the circle is half complete.
And there is more danger now because one can take sex as the total, as the all, as the goal. It can give you a few glimpses. If sex really happens if you allow it to happen if you become possessed by it so you are not doing it, you are possessed by it, the energy is doing something, you are just a spectator at the most, then there happens an orgasm, a deep blissful state. That is dangerous because you can mistake it as the goal. Many people have mistaken it for the goal.
Very few people are clinging to the second stage -- thirst, very few people; there have been a few sects in the world who have tried to remain thirsty for long periods, particularly in deserts. There have been a few sects of monks who have tried to remain thirsty, just like fasting, to bridge a direct line with the original source, to fall back.
More often than that, hunger has been used. In all the religions of the world there are trends, sects which use fasting.
And physical activity is used even more often than hunger.
Just a few days ago I was reading about a new training which every day is becoming more and more attractive in America: EST. This man, the founder of EST, Erhardt, forces people for four, five days to sit for hours together -- twelve hours, fourteen hours, sixteen hours, you are not even allowed to go to the bathroom; you have to sit; you are only allowed to go to the bathroom at particular times -- six hours you will have been accumulating urine in the bladder. It is sheer willpower, it is painful but you have been holding it -- it is a sort of hatha yoga -- for up to ten hours, twelve hours, and then suddenly you are allowed to go. The bladder relaxes, and you have a beautiful pleasant feeling all around the body inside and out. This is an old trick. Hatha yogis have been doing many sorts of tricks like that. You can attain a glimpse.
If you fast you have to use will. With too much physical activity you have to use will. Gurdjieff used physical activity very much. He would say to people: Go on working for twelve hours until you fall -- not that you stop, you fall down, you cannot do anything more, you see yourself falling; you cannot do anything, the legs won't move, they wobble, and you are just a watcher and you cannot do anything because you have done whatsoever could be done and you fall to the ground. That falling would give a beautiful glimpse.
Whenever -- and this is the rule: whenever the whole takes possession of you and your ego is no more functioning, the whole functions; then you have a beautiful feeling; but these beautiful feelings are not the goals. They are toys to play with, chocolates -- nothing more; chocolates on the path of spirituality. Enjoy them but don't cling to them, they cannot be food, they are not nourishing.
The fifth is the most dangerous because the most potential. Tantra has used the fifth to bridge the gap. From sex to samadhi, the gap can be bridged very easily But still it is not complete.
If you move beyond sex then a different type of activity arises in you: intelligence.
A sort of genius is released. You can observe this. People who are deeply intelligent you will always find bachelors. The reason is their whole energy has been absorbed by their mental activity. They attain to their orgasms through their minds. That's why all over history people who have attained to great mental activity you will find always bachelors. Or even if they are not bachelors they are not much interested in sex.
But that too is lopsided. No need to drop sex. Use all that God has given to you. But go on. Make it a step to move further.
If you go beyond sex only then for the first time your intelligence starts functioning well. You have great insight into things. Many people cling to that state. They become theologians, philosophers, thinkers, scientists, and they think the goal is achieved. The goal is not yet achieved.
If you go beyond the sixth, mental activity, then love is born. Then your heart starts functioning. The same energy is moving. The same energy that took the first breath, was hungry, thirsty, became sexual, became mental now becomes the energy of the heart. Love arises. But love also is not the goal.
You can remain in love, it is a beautiful phenomenon, and you have gone far enough -- it is the seventh step. Just a little more and the circle will be complete.
People who are of the heart will look to you to be very evolved: St. Francis of Asissi, and others -- they will look to you very very evolved, you will have a different feeling of their being, their quality will be different. If you come near them you will feel a magnetic force; they will have a field of energy, they can pull you in. Near them your own heart starts functioning. Very evolved people -- but still the evolution is not complete.
If you go beyond love then real aesthetic activity starts. Then poetry arises in your being. Then for the first time you have the capacity to feel music. Then for the first time you look around and the beauty of nature is revealed. Then you listen to the harmony of the universe, the symphony of the stars. Then everything starts to become more and more beautiful. Layers and layers of beauty are revealed. Your eyes have a penetrating force. Wherever you look you go deep. Even in rocks you feel flowers blossoming. But this too is not the end. Many cling to this, and there is much temptation because this is just the last step. The goal is just in front of you. And it always happens when the goal is just in front of you one relaxes, feeling that one has arrived. But unless you become the goal you have not arrived. The temple may be just in front of you but unless you have become one with the god of the temple you have not arrived.
These people , aesthetic people, become great mystics. They talk of the beauty of God, they have become Bauls, madmen of God, Sufis.... That is the last. One step more -- and that step is the spiritual.
This ninth step is again the first, the circle is complete. Again you start breathing but not like a child, like a sage.
A child breathes unconsciously. He does not know what is happening. God has entered in him but he does not know, he has not heard the footsteps; he was so fast asleep in the womb, so deep in darkness, he has not seen anything. How could he see? He was not even alive, he was unconscious.
A child breathes in unconsciousness. A sage breathes consciously. He is again a child, a rebirth has happened. Now he breathes but he is aware. This is anapansa-sati yoga Buddha.
This is the way of Tao: how to breathe consciously.
One observes. One relaxes into oneself and looks, looks at the breathing, follows it, moment to moment: incoming, outgoing; and there are beautiful happenings. When you follow the breathing you immediately become calm and quiet. The tranquility is such that you have never known before. Just watch. If you watch the breathing even for a few seconds, you will feel you are settling somewhere. A centering happens.
The breathing goes down. Then there is a gap the breathing stops -- a very small interval. In that gap there is no breathing only you are only the watcher is -- nothing to be watched. In that moment suddenly you know yourself.
These are the techniques of Vigyana Bhairava Tantra, The Book of Secrets. They were told to Parvati.
Then when the breathing goes out you follow again; when the breathing moves out of you, then again there is a gap, a very subtle gap. Breathing stops. The object has disappeared. Only consciousness. Only you. Only the seer, the witness. Again suddenly you are elated. This goes on. By and by breathing becomes an outer phenomenon. You know that you are, Whether breathing goes on or stops makes no difference. Then you come to know that you are eternal, deathless.
Such a man while dying will see his breath has left him and will be aware, watching it. He will die watchfully, and one who dies watching, never dies. He has come to know the deathlessness. Through breathing he has discovered the vital principle of life. Breathing was just the outer layer of it, the outer shell, now he has come to know the content. Breathing was just the container. The circle is complete. And I am for the whole circle.
That's why many times I appear to be against many religious people. Because they cling somewhere. Good as far as they go, but one should go the whole way. One should go to the last point from where no more going is possible.
Jesus says: "Unless you become like children you will not enter my kingdom of God." I go on repeating it again and again, in different meanings. People like Jesus have multi-meanings in their words. Unless you become like a child again, unless you breathe again in a totally different way, you will not be resurrected, you will not be reborn. And this rebirth is the goal; the very meaning, significance of life. Unless you attain to it you are missing something tremendous -- and it is just by the corner.
And I am for the circle. Move to the very end. Let the circle have a natural ending. Don't try to find any short-cut. Then you will be rich -- rich like Lao Tzu, rich like Krishna, rich like Buddha. Otherwise you can move somewhere from the middle -- but then you will not be rich.
Don't be clever with life. You cannot be cunning with life: all short-cuts are cunning. Let life have its own natural course. You follow it, you don't force it.
And always remember that whatsoever is done is done by the whole, you are not the doer. If you can remember that, then breath is his thirst, is his hunger, is his sex, is his love, is his whatsoever happens is his, death is his. And you remain completely pure and innocent out of it.
The whole goes on doing, you are not the doer. This is the surrender, surrendering the ego: I am not the doer. This is the whole message of the Gita: Let the whole do, don't you come in because you are the only barrier. If you come in you commit sin. This is my definition of sin: If you say: "I breathe," this is a sin. If you say: "I love", this is a sin. If you say he breathes this is virtue. If you say he loves, this is virtue. And this is not only a saying, you have to feel it in its totality. Then you are unburdened. Then wings grow on you, you can fly. Then the gravitation cannot affect you. The gravitation can affect only the ego.
If he is the doer, then why be worried? Then you are not in any hurry to reach anywhere, then you have no private goal, then his goal is yours, and wherever he is going he is always right because there cannot be any wrong for the whole. The whole alone is.
This is the circle of Tao: from breath, unconscious breath, to conscious breath.
And the emphasis of Lao Tzu is continuously that you can relax. That's why he praises the weak not the strong, because the strong cannot relax. That's why he goes on praising water not rocks, because water is flowing, and water has no shape of its own.
Whatsoever shape is given by the whole, the water takes it. It does not carry its own mind. If you put it in a glass it becomes of that shape. If you put it in a bottle it takes that shape. It does not resist, it does not say: "I have my own shape, what are you doing to me? Don't force me in this bottle!" Wherever you put the water, it moves, takes the shape. It is non-resistant. It is non-violent, non-aggressive. It has no mind of its own.
But a rock? A rock has a mind of its own. If you want to force it, it will resist. You will have to fight, you will have to cut it, fight it, much fight will be needed -- only then will you be able to give it shape. It has its own mind. Water is mindless. These are symbols.
Lao Tzu says: Be like water, don't be like a rock, so that you can complete the circle. Move! If God is hungry within you -- eat! If God feels sleepy within you -- sleep! If God feels like loving -- love! Move with the God, you don't come in the way. Let things, the whole, have its own course. You simply follow it. Even to say follow it is not good because even a follower has some resistance. That's why he says I am for the lower. You simply be one with it.
Now the sutra.
There is nothing weaker than water but none is superior to it in overcoming the hard, for which there is no substitute.
He is tremendously in love with water. All the qualities of water have very symbolic meanings for Lao Tzu; one: it is soft, has no form of its own.
A man should be like water, with no form, no mind, no ideology. If you are a Hindu or a Mohammedan you are like a rock. If I ask you: "Who are you?" and you shrug your shoulders and say: "I don't know, I don't know, how I can be a Hindu, or how I can be a Mohammedan?" -- beautiful. That shrugging of the shoulders is beautiful. You don't have any ideology, you are like water. If you are a communist or a socialist or a fascist you are like a rock. People with ideologies are dead. They have a certain belief -- a form. And they are resistant. A person who has no belief, no ideology, no form, belongs to no church, is flowing -- like water. Wherever he moves, whatsoever situation comes, he responds. He responds always in the present. A man of ideology is never in the present: he has to look to the ideology -- how to react? He reacts, he does not respond. He has already a mind.
If you ask a communist any question the answer is ready-made. It is already there. He has not to think about it. In fact he is not answering you at all. the answer was already there before you talked to him. He is just giving a ready-made answer, a cliché. He has learnt it by heart. It is not a conscious phenomenon. He is not in this moment. He repeats like a parrot. He may be repeating Kapital or Koran -- it makes no difference.
A man who is really alive is responsive. He has no answers. When the question arises he responds to the question -- and the answer is created. In fact he is as much surprised by the answer as you will be surprised. He never knew it! Because there was no situation like this before. He is like water. Water is soft.
The second thing: Water is always flowing low, "low-wards," finding, seeking low places, valleys. That too is very very important for Lao Tzu. He says: Never try to go upwards, because then there is fight, because all are going upwards. Never try to go to New Delhi because everybody is going there; there is going to be competition, jealousy, fight, struggle. Move to the valley where nobody is going. Don't be like fire, be like water.
Fire moves upwards, water moves "low-wards," it always goes towards the ocean, the lowest place in the world. It seeks the low. If it can find a still lower place it immediately starts moving. It is always for the lowest place. Why? Because the lower you move, the less competition, the less violence, the less aggression -- and you are not fighting with anybody;. and if you fight with anybody one thing is certain: you cannot live yourself. The whole energy becomes fight.
Politicians never live their lives. They don't have any time, They don't have any space, they don't have any energy to live their life. They are always fighting others. They end fighting.
A man who wants to live, should never be a politician.
Water is very non-political.
Be like water. Move, find the lowest place where nobody is to compete, because nobody wants to go there. Then you can relax. Then you can be yourself. And that is the glory. If you can be yourself you will become a god.
Because you are a god, it just has to be discovered. You already have it within you, you just need time, space, relaxation, leisure so you can relax on a beach, lie down naked under the sun on the sands -- and not a worry in the world. Because you are not a fighter, you are not in any competition. This is renunciation.
Not that you go to the Himalayas -- because those who go to the Himalayas, they are seeking the peaks. And even in the Himalayas there is much competition. Gurus are in much competition: because somebody has more followers than you there is trouble; or someone has made a bigger ashram than you -- then there is trouble. Even in the Himalayas there is politics.
The sannyasins, the old sannyasins, are really politicians of the spiritual. They are moving higher. Their heaven is there, high in the skies! And Lao Tzu says: My heaven is there -- low, the lowest place in the world, where I can be myself, nobody bothers me and I don't bother anybody.
This is renunciation. You can live in the world, then there is no problem, if you just know not to be a competitor, because competition is for the ego. For the being, for your real being, no competition is needed; you are already that, the highest, so why bother for height?
Lao Tzu says this: Only inferior persons, people with inferiority complexes, try to reach the heights.
All politicians suffer from an inferiority complex. They need treatment, psychological treatment. They need much cleansing. They are inferior people -- deep down they suffer from inferiority. To hide that inferiority they fight to go high. When they reach, they become prime ministers and presidents, then they can say to the world: "Who says that I am inferior? Look! If I was inferior then how could I have attained to such heights? I am superior."
The longing for superiority belongs to the inferior man. A superior man doesn't bother. A superior man can afford to be inferior -- remember this. A superior man can afford to be inferior because it makes no difference, he is so superior; he is superior, there is no point in becoming a president of a country. That will not add anything to his stature; rather, it may degrade him.
Water has that quality of going low. And Lao Tzu says:
There is nothing weaker than water and yet none is superior to it in overcoming the hard.
Water overcomes. Go and see a waterfall. The rocks are so hard and the water so soft but rocks have been disappearing by and by. They have become sand already.
Scientists say that within seven thousand years the fall of Niagara will disappear, because all the rocks will disappear. The water is cutting the rocks continuously. Within seven thousand years there will be no fall because there will be no rocks. The whole hilly track will disappear. Rocks could not believe it -- how does it happen! Water, so weak -- and still it cuts deep.
Weakness also has a subtle strength in it. And you also know this if you are a little observant, you can see in life how it happens.
Woman is weak, man is hard, but always the woman wins and the man is defeated. Always. And even a great man like Napoleon, and people like that, they become like children before their women.
Josephine, the wife of Napoleon, could not believe how this man could win so many battles. She has written in a letter: "It is simply unbelievable because this Napoleon is nothing!" The last battle in which Napoleon was defeated, he was defeated because of Josephine, because the moment he was leaving the house she said: "No!" Just to see what he would do. And when the woman had said no, how could Napoleon go? So he had to stay. He reached the front one hour late. Because he always used to plan the whole war of the day, that day he couldn't plan it, somebody else had to plan it -- and he was defeated on that day. He was late -- he was never late in his life, this was for the first time. In fact it was not Napoleon who was defeated, it was a woman who had a victory that day. She said: "No, I say, no!"
Why do women become so powerful? Weakness is their secret, they are weak like water. In the beginning you say: "What can they do?" You are like rocks. But in the end you know, you have become like sand. All husbands by and by are converted to henpecked husbands. It is natural! If it has not happened to you something is wrong. And nothing is wrong in it.
It is said, it is an old story, that once Akbar asked his wise man, Birbal: "What do you think? Sometimes I become worried. All the people in my court look henpecked. Is there not even a single brave man?" Birbal said: "Difficult, but we will try to find one."
They were all brave men, they could put down their life in a single moment if it was ordered. Their bravery was not in any way suspected. Birbal made arrangements; he said: "Tomorrow, come decided that you will assert the truth. Anybody who tells a lie is going to the gallows. Think over it: the king wants to know the truth, whether you are afraid of your wife or not."
They all came. The king asked: "Those who are afraid of their wives should come to the right, and those who are not afraid, only they should remain on the left." All moved except a single tiny man. Even Akbar could not believe that this man whom he had never thought could be a brave man.... But at least seeing that one was there he said: "I am happy because I was thinking that not even a single man would be there." That man said: "Wait! Don't be happy so soon. When I was coming my wife said: 'Don't stand in the crowd!' That's why I am standing here."
It is natural -- the feminine principle wins. And Lao Tzu is all for the feminine principle. Why does the woman win? She is so soft. In fact she never fights, she persuades. She does not fight directly, her fight is very indirect and subtle. If she wants to say "No," she will not say "no" directly, but in a thousand and one ways her whole being will say "no." In the way she puts the plate down she will say "No," in the way she moves -- her sari will make a sound and say "no." She will not say "no," she will say "Yes," but her whole being will assert the "No." And when it is so subtle how to defeat it? If you love the woman you are defeated.
And it is good that the hard is defeated and the soft wins because that is the only possibility for God to win in the world.
The devil must be like rock. Hard. God must be soft. In fact in the East we have never thought of God as father, we have been thinking of God as mother. That insight is beautiful: God should not be thought of as father because then -- the male principle is hard. He should be thought of as mother, feminine.
God the mother seems better than God the father because his ways are also very subtle.
He persuades you to come towards him, he never forces you. You never meet him anywhere and still you go on searching for him. You never encounter him because that too will be too "hard." To be just before your eyes like a rock, a Himalayan rock, no, that won't be good. He follows you as a subtle aroma. You never encounter him. You would never come face to face with him. You will find him deep in the stirrings of your heart. You will not find him like a storm, he comes like a subtle breeze. Only those who are very subtle will be able to feel it. He comes like a flower.
In India we made the image of God in stone. That should not be done. To compensate we go and put flowers before it. A flower is more godlike than the stone. In fact stone images should disappear from the world. A flower is enough! Put the flower there -- and that becomes god. God is like a fragrance, not like a French perfume, so strong and aggressive, no, but very subtle, silent, non-aggressive. Only sometimes when you are tuned, you feel it; you miss it again and again. It is the music of the silence.
There is nothing weaker than water but none is superior to it in overcoming the hard, for which there is no substitute. That weakness overcomes strength and gentleness overcomes rigidity, no one does not know; no one can put into practice.
It is very difficult to know it. To understand it is possible; to know it, difficult. Knowledge is too gross. If you go to know it, you will miss it. But you can understand it -- what I call a tacit understanding is possible. If you watch life not in any way trying to know it....
There is a difference. If a scientist comes to this garden he will move aggressively, not that he will be aggressive, but he will move aggressively. His eyes will have aggression, he will look at the flowers, at the trees, to penetrate their secret, to know their nakedness, to know what they are. Science is like rape. It is not like love. He will cut, dissect, he will try to penetrate forcibly. to the secret.
Then comes a poet or a painter or a musician. He moves, but his movement is totally different. He moves watchfully of course -- it is holy ground, to be near a flower is to be near a temple, to be near an alive tree is to be near God. It is holy ground -- he moves very cautiously, he is watchful, alert, but he does not rape, he does not jump and be aggressive on he waits, waits with deep receptivity. If the plant has to give something he is ready, he will receive it with deep gratitude; but if the plant is not willing, let it be so. Then nothing can be done. A musician, a painter, a dancer, a poet, waits in receptivity: If you have something to give to me, if you feel that I am worthy of it, the plant, then I will receive it in deep gratitude; but if you feel I am not worthy, that's okay. Nothing can be done, I am helpless. He waits like a beggar. Not like Indian beggars, because they are very aggressive, their begging is very violent. No, he begs like a beggar if you call Buddha a beggar -- yes, we have called him bhikkhu, a beggar, Mahavir too, they were beggars of a totally different quality, of a totally different grandeur.
They were not aggressive -- they would come to your house, they would stand before your house, if you give, it is okay, they are grateful; if you don't give, then too they are grateful. Their gratefulness does not differ by your giving or not giving. They thank you, they pray for you, they move!
If you stand like that, like a bhikkhu, his hands spread, his heart open, ready to receive -- but not to take, then nature reveals its mystery.
It is not knowledge, knowledge is too gross a word. It is a tacit understanding. It is more like love than like knowledge. You love a person, then you know a person. Loving becomes a sort of knowing. Remember: "a sort of;" not exactly. It cannot be scientific, it cannot be mathematical, it cannot be logical: "a sort of, a kind of." You know deeply, heart to heart, but you cannot say this is knowledge. That will be too imprudent a word. You know because you love.
Says Lao Tzu:
No one does not know; no one can put into practice.
No one knows it, no one can practice it, because to practice such a deep tacit understanding is impossible. Practice is gross. You can live it, you cannot practice it. You can know it as an understanding, you can live it, you cannot practice it. A real man of understanding simply lives his understanding, he is not practicing.
People ask me: "When do you meditate?" I don't meditate. I cannot be so foolish! To meditate means to practice. How can you practice it? You can be it, but you cannot practice it. People ask me: "How do you pray?" I never pray. I live my prayers, I don't pray. Prayer is my way of living, my way of living is my prayer. It is not separate.
If you understand, you live it. If you know, then you have to practice it, because knowledge does not transform. You know something, then the mind asks: "How to do it now?"
All knowledge finally becomes technology, that's why science has become technology in the West. All knowledge finally becomes technology because just by knowing, nothing happens. First you know, then you ask: "How to do it?"
For example, Einstein discovered the theory of atomic energy somewhere in 1905. The theory was complete. But then scientists started asking: "How to do it?" In abstraction it was complete, the theory was absolutely logical and proved as a theory, but how to practice it? It took forty years to create an atom bomb and to destroy Nagasaki; then it became technology. It took knowledge forty years to become technology. Many more things are known but they will take time to become technology.
All science by and by is reduced to technology. Religion never becomes a technology, cannot become one, because it is not knowledge. You understand.... The very understanding is transforming; you are transfigured, transmuted, you are no more the same! You see, you watch, you understand a certain thing -- the very thing has changed your quality of being. Now you live differently. No practice is possible. Practice of little things is possible, great things cannot be practiced. Prayer is a great thing. Love is a great thing -- there can be no "Know-how" about it. Meditation is the last, the pinnacle. God. How can you practice God? You can become, but you cannot practice. And you can become because you already are -- just a little understanding.... You are standing in the dark; just a little light, a little illumination, and everything changes.
Lao Tzu says you cannot know it, you cannot practice it, but, the sage says:
Who receives unto himself the calumny of the world is the preserver of the state.
Who moves lowest is the sage, and who takes on himself the whole responsibility of the whole darkness of the world, who becomes like a Jesus -- he preserves the world. The world is not preserved by politicians, they are pretenders; the world is preserved by very few people who may not even be known to you, because even to know them is difficult, they live so ordinarily; they are lost deep in the woods of the world, you may not be knowing them.
There is a story in the Bible, a beautiful parable. There was a town called Sodom. From that town comes the word "sodomy." The people had become very corrupt. All sorts of sexual perversion were prevalent. People were homosexual, people were making love to animals -- the whole town was perverted. God decided to destroy the town. But there was one difficulty: there was one good man in the town. Unless the good man could be persuaded to leave the town, the town could not be destroyed.
Angels were sent to persuade the good man: "Please, leave the town. Because of you the town cannot be destroyed." But the good man was difficult to persuade. He said: "I am needed here! Where should I go? These people are ill, these people are perverted, their lives are miserable, they live in hell -- I am needed here. And I am responsible for these people! Because they don't know and I know -- that's why I am responsible. Look!" he said, "because they don't know, how can you tell them they are responsible? They are doing all sorts of things unknowingly. They are completely oblivious, ignorant, not remembering what they are doing. They are as if drunkards. I am the only one who knows what is happening, and if I go, then who will save them? I am responsible for them."
So it is said the good man was persuaded in a very cunning way. He was told: "There is another town, Gomorrah, where people are even more corrupt. You please go there." So when the man was going to Gomorrah, Gomorrah and Sodom were both destroyed. Because he was just in the middle.
The world is preserved by very few people, a few people of crystal purity, of childlike innocence -- but they feel responsible. Because they are aware.
It is said that when Buddha reached nirvana, the last ultimate home, the doors were opened, there was great celebration, because centuries and centuries pass, then only one person comes and enters in those gates. But Buddha would not enter. He stood at the gate, his back towards the gate. They were worried, they asked: "Why are you standing there? The door is open and we have been waiting for you and there is much celebration and much jubilation -- Come in! Be a guest!"
The Buddha is reported to have said: "How can I come in? The whole world is suffering. I will stand here until the last man passes by, enters into the ultimate. I will have to wait -- I will be the last, I feel responsible. I am aware, and they are not aware so they cannot be responsible, but I am responsible."
The more aware you become the more responsible you become, the more you feel, the more you become a help -- not that you start serving people, but your whole life becomes a service. Not that you are doing something for them out of any obligation. No, you are simply fulfilling your own awareness.
Who bears himself the sins of the world is the king of the world.
Those are the real kings, who are not known to history. History goes on talking about mock kings, false kings. History has not yet become a really authentic phenomenon, otherwise it would talk about Buddha, Lao Tzu, it would talk about Kabir and Krishna and Christ, it would talk about Mohammed and Mahavir, it wouldn't talk about Napoleon, Hitler, Mao Tse-tung, Stalin, it wouldn't talk about these people.
These people are just mischievous, they are the mischief-makers. They are like diseases, they have to be eliminated. Because of them, the earth is a hell.
But history goes on talking about them, and every child is corrupted by history: talking about foolish, stupid people, mad, neurotic, perverted, and not talking about those who have attained to themselves. They are the real kings of the world.
Strange words seem crooked.
And Lao Tzu says: these words are very strange. But they will look crooked to people because they are crooked.
OSHO : Nothing Weaker Than Water, Volume 4, Chapter 9