Last week brought in a different flavour.
My sis was almost breaking down about how to organize her daughter's bday party. She has a newborn and no help.
She was in an emotional weakspot and quite drained.
I was also scared how she will manage.
But then, she did something smart. She put aside the negativity and planned a menu and asked for small help and got things done. She did all the work and now she feels awesome.
For all of us, we feel good only when we can do what we aim to do and what we are capable of doing. But those emotional turmoils that we go through totally derail and decapacitate us.
It may seem silly but we go through so many turbulences and conflicts. There are conflicting voices in our head that drive us crazy.
And through all this journey of hers I realized two things.
a) Sometimes you do someone great service by not being there. It's an art to know when to be there for a friend and also when to leave them alone. You're enabling them by leaving them alone. But when they are in the dark, you stand there to support them.
b) As humans we go through struggles. We all have our battles and demons.
The beauty of a relation is in sharing a human's struggle. Seeing them fight wars and win them.
You see them come out of a situation, changed, battered but better. You witness the "change".
That is human relation. That is bond...these moments when we're there for each other, witnessing each other's journey, is the core of relations. It's these journeys we share, that make life worthwhile. You see the seed to flower journey of a person.. you see the rocks becoming diamonds...you root for them.. you cry with them..
The hardest thing is change.. changing one's self. It requires courage and effort and most of us are not willing to put that. We falter. We succumb.
Tis these shared journeys that make life worthwhile.
My sis was almost breaking down about how to organize her daughter's bday party. She has a newborn and no help.
She was in an emotional weakspot and quite drained.
I was also scared how she will manage.
But then, she did something smart. She put aside the negativity and planned a menu and asked for small help and got things done. She did all the work and now she feels awesome.
For all of us, we feel good only when we can do what we aim to do and what we are capable of doing. But those emotional turmoils that we go through totally derail and decapacitate us.
It may seem silly but we go through so many turbulences and conflicts. There are conflicting voices in our head that drive us crazy.
And through all this journey of hers I realized two things.
a) Sometimes you do someone great service by not being there. It's an art to know when to be there for a friend and also when to leave them alone. You're enabling them by leaving them alone. But when they are in the dark, you stand there to support them.
b) As humans we go through struggles. We all have our battles and demons.
The beauty of a relation is in sharing a human's struggle. Seeing them fight wars and win them.
You see them come out of a situation, changed, battered but better. You witness the "change".
That is human relation. That is bond...these moments when we're there for each other, witnessing each other's journey, is the core of relations. It's these journeys we share, that make life worthwhile. You see the seed to flower journey of a person.. you see the rocks becoming diamonds...you root for them.. you cry with them..
The hardest thing is change.. changing one's self. It requires courage and effort and most of us are not willing to put that. We falter. We succumb.
Tis these shared journeys that make life worthwhile.
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