We all have days which do not go as planned. It gets us worked up.
It happens to every single person.
There are n number of things that could go wrong. We all get worked up and if such things happen at the start of the day that kind of sets the mood for the whole day.
First of all we need to make ourselves calm people. One who is always tensed never achieves much. A bit of exercise, meditation and self introspection makes us calm. That helps us tackle problems with a cool mind in an intelligent manner.
So, the day did not start great. What is the best you can do? Replan immediately. Work like the GPS - recalculating routes. As simple as that. If u skipped your morning exercise, squeeze it in at evening. Some tasks, postpone to weekend. The end... By being calm the rest of the day atleast can be made pleasant. Else, you will suffer the rest of the day, be angry, howl at others, keep cursing your luck and end up wasting huge amounts of time and energy and achieve very less.
So, accepting derailments are replanning coolly and not brooding too much over what went wrong will help you be back on track.
But, I think unless you are calm in the first place, all this will never happen! I look back at myself a year ago. I was an agitated person. I was probably angry every second - with traffic, office work, cooking for my family, getting to work on time, my asthma.. Maybe when we do too much in a day, we will become agitated. Cut back on work.. That doesn't mean become lazy. But do only a reasonable amount of work. Don't try being a superwoman. Especially women suffer from this "I want to be a superwoman, supermom, superwife, supermodel" issues. Men probably don't suffer as much. Do we need to be SUPER in everything? It's ok to be an average person too.
So, if you're stressed, agitated and angry most of the time - please join a meditation class and take it seriously. It's a lifestyle change and you will be thankful for that. If you can take a break from work, do that and set yourself right. Align your priorities, emotions, etc. This took me like a year.I lost a year's salary but I have become a more manageable person. I have less work load - which adds to my calmness. So, try that. Outsource some tasks, cut back on work. Spend time in pure silence. No TV, no internet, no mobiles, no books. Just sit and brood about yourself and why you behaved the way you behave. Find triggers for bad moods. Be aware of it when it occurs again. Being aware of triggers helps - for anything from depression to food cravings to migraine.
Once you spot the trigger you can arm yourself to counter it in the best possible way.
Another thing - stop comparing yourself with others. It's a huge gift you'll be giving yourself. Your neighbour's life is soooooooooo different than yours. Their mindset, capabilities and family situations are so different from yours. So, no 1 people can actually compare themselves. It's one of the worst concepts on earth. Even 2 siblings or twins are not the same. So, once you stop comparing you are more happy. Set your own goals and reach for them. Not your neighbour's goals. If you do the reverse your gonna be chasing unrealistic stuff always. Your neighbour earns 2 crores and goes to Europe every year. You earn 5 lacs - can you do the same? So, just concentrate on yourself, your behaviour pattern, moods and emotions. Work on becoming better in these aspects.
Once these things fall in place, you're much calmer. You accept yourself..your spouse and children and traffic..the anger reduces...and you will one day be bouncing your joy. No derailment can then affect you.
http://debunkingconsciousness.blogspot.in/2012/02/is-calmness-peace-they-key-to-make-you.html
http://blog.ishafoundation.org/lifestyle/to-sleep-or-not-to-sleep/
http://blog.ishafoundation.org/lifestyle/dont-plan-your-life-away/
(This looks like Sadhguru's blog now. I guess I am becoming too emotional and philosophical.)
It happens to every single person.
- You may wake up with a bad headache.
- Your child is sick.
- Your maid does not turn up.
- You just could not wake up.
- You got caught in a jam.
- Your mom calls you and does not hang up :-)
- You just don't want to face the day.
- You missed the kid's school bus and now have to drive so far to drop them or school bus broke down.
- It's very cold and you had to skip your jog.
- You forgot to charge your mobile and you could not log into a conf call.
- You forgot to fuel up the car and now you have to find some other way to reach work.
- Your child spilled coffee on your shirt and you had to find a new one, press it and wear it.
- You accidentally dropped the morning breakfast and had to redo the whole thing!
There are n number of things that could go wrong. We all get worked up and if such things happen at the start of the day that kind of sets the mood for the whole day.
First of all we need to make ourselves calm people. One who is always tensed never achieves much. A bit of exercise, meditation and self introspection makes us calm. That helps us tackle problems with a cool mind in an intelligent manner.
So, the day did not start great. What is the best you can do? Replan immediately. Work like the GPS - recalculating routes. As simple as that. If u skipped your morning exercise, squeeze it in at evening. Some tasks, postpone to weekend. The end... By being calm the rest of the day atleast can be made pleasant. Else, you will suffer the rest of the day, be angry, howl at others, keep cursing your luck and end up wasting huge amounts of time and energy and achieve very less.
So, accepting derailments are replanning coolly and not brooding too much over what went wrong will help you be back on track.
But, I think unless you are calm in the first place, all this will never happen! I look back at myself a year ago. I was an agitated person. I was probably angry every second - with traffic, office work, cooking for my family, getting to work on time, my asthma.. Maybe when we do too much in a day, we will become agitated. Cut back on work.. That doesn't mean become lazy. But do only a reasonable amount of work. Don't try being a superwoman. Especially women suffer from this "I want to be a superwoman, supermom, superwife, supermodel" issues. Men probably don't suffer as much. Do we need to be SUPER in everything? It's ok to be an average person too.
So, if you're stressed, agitated and angry most of the time - please join a meditation class and take it seriously. It's a lifestyle change and you will be thankful for that. If you can take a break from work, do that and set yourself right. Align your priorities, emotions, etc. This took me like a year.I lost a year's salary but I have become a more manageable person. I have less work load - which adds to my calmness. So, try that. Outsource some tasks, cut back on work. Spend time in pure silence. No TV, no internet, no mobiles, no books. Just sit and brood about yourself and why you behaved the way you behave. Find triggers for bad moods. Be aware of it when it occurs again. Being aware of triggers helps - for anything from depression to food cravings to migraine.
Once you spot the trigger you can arm yourself to counter it in the best possible way.
Another thing - stop comparing yourself with others. It's a huge gift you'll be giving yourself. Your neighbour's life is soooooooooo different than yours. Their mindset, capabilities and family situations are so different from yours. So, no 1 people can actually compare themselves. It's one of the worst concepts on earth. Even 2 siblings or twins are not the same. So, once you stop comparing you are more happy. Set your own goals and reach for them. Not your neighbour's goals. If you do the reverse your gonna be chasing unrealistic stuff always. Your neighbour earns 2 crores and goes to Europe every year. You earn 5 lacs - can you do the same? So, just concentrate on yourself, your behaviour pattern, moods and emotions. Work on becoming better in these aspects.
Once these things fall in place, you're much calmer. You accept yourself..your spouse and children and traffic..the anger reduces...and you will one day be bouncing your joy. No derailment can then affect you.
http://debunkingconsciousness.blogspot.in/2012/02/is-calmness-peace-they-key-to-make-you.html
http://blog.ishafoundation.org/lifestyle/to-sleep-or-not-to-sleep/
http://blog.ishafoundation.org/lifestyle/dont-plan-your-life-away/
(This looks like Sadhguru's blog now. I guess I am becoming too emotional and philosophical.)
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