I have never made resolutions for new year.
Resolutions happen mostly on some of the strange days where you find yourself wiser by a particular "thought" or "idea".
This year, there are some key topics I want to focus on.
I want to repeat some things like a mantra and its effective to repeat and internalize these.
1) To stand up for myself.
Whether I work, or sleep or laze around...
Whether I choose a low paying job or choose to study..
Whether I wear a brand or khadi
Whether I am out in shabby hair or all decked..
I will stand by myself. I will respect who I am and my choices.
I will not feel apologetic for the choices I make.
I will not feel sympathetic for what I am or what I have become.
I will stand by myself...my right and wrong choices...
I am good enough for me. Repeat this a million times...
I may not be good enough for you, but I am good enough for me.
This is all about belief, self-esteem and confidence.
Quoting from Chanakya Neeti:
Low self esteem is probably the biggest cause behind failures in life. The foremost requirement for accomplishing something big will be to build a high self-esteem.
My shop closed not because it was recession not because I was lazy not because it was high priced or not because products were not good...it closed because I stopped believing in my dreams. I started feeling apologetic for my choice.. somehow I started feeling it was a second-class thing to own a shop..I felt hurt when I met customers who did not behave well with me because I had a huge ego..I expected them to be polite and respectful... I was affected when a few silly folks told me we wudn't make it...I also had issues whether we should sell costly products because there was an ethical clash there - I myself hated overpriced products but my products were costly because I was buying them for more price and I had no choice. We used great jars and great packaging and all that added to the cost. So, there was a huge moral conflict. When there were no customers my hopes were down and I had no energy to revive the business or infuse new ideas and energy. The worst thing that can happen to a business is the owner becoming negative or skeptical. Not lack of cash, not lack of people.. The energy I had when I started started waning due to negativity. I was waiting for some positivity for sometime but since nothing came, I lose it...You start a business only when u have the confidence to see it not growing for 10 years.. that's a bench mark. Believe me 10 years is a long time.. I had no patience to hold on to a difficult pregnancy for 9 months.. I could not stay in a suffocating company for 1 year..I cannot do something I do not love, even for 1 day.. so, there you go. I am not the person who had the confidence to back my decision without seeing any success - for 10 years. So, we failed. I own up. Today, 2 years of relaxation and richer by having read tons of articles, I am growing to be a confident woman. A person who is strong inside, cannot be fragmented or cracked, but soft and polite on the outside.
In today's faced paced world, we have no time to think. We follow the herd without knowing what we want. We have no time to stop and correct ourselves because we hardly have time to sleep or eat also. So, we forget our real aspirations and dreams. Hence it's all the more important to know ourself well.. and be confident wherever we are in life. Whether you're a janitor or Facebook CEO - all men are actually equal. The society projects some jobs as white collar and some as beneath our status. It's all bullshit.
If we give in to such class concepts, in our inferiority complex, we will under-perform. We will meet tons of people who will feel we are worthless or we don't do great jobs. That's fine. Unless you have confidence, all this will bother you.. bother you so much that you'll go mad or commit suicide feeling so negative about oneself.
Also, today it's almost a crime to want to have a relaxed life or feel happy. You have to keep moving, keep changing and adapting.. as fast as the new gadgets that get released.. so you're considered backward and incapable...if you want a relaxed life, it's a crime. Don't give in to that shit. This productivity frenzy is propagated by those who want to make more things and sell more fast, to make a fast buck.. and fill their wallets. India is a spiritual country. Since ancient times, man's well being was considered of utmost important than material things. That's the right way to look at the world.
This western way of living is not right for most of us.
4) Resolve issues then and there. Do not carry hurt and pain. No matter who it is.. ask them for an explanation or voice your discontent or hurt and get a complete picture...give others a chance to explain or apologize or convince you...else forget it.
5) De-addict from romantic movies and Koffee with DD :-) Total time waste :-)
i.e reduce unproductive, energy or time consuming activity or activity that u hate doing.
6) Deal with this motapa thing well.. Today, every single day, the flab around my waist bothers me sooooo much. I just can't say. I want to achieve 0% body fat. I hate body fat. But like I observed, the more I obsess over it, the less it budges. The things that have worked for me are those which I have not cared much about..the things we obsess about.. drain us. I somehow want to make peace with my weight but continue healthy habits...
7) Write clearly. Don't deviate - if you have other points that are interesting, cover under appropriate subject, not under this. Be precise. Answer precisely. Don't waste anyone's time writing long mails. Have a clear train of thoughts. Have clarity of speech.
8) Respond to important calls and mails :-)
I am slowly moving the Robin Sharma way, I can feel it... Maybe one day I will turn into a motivational speaker!
And last one:
9) Use time efficiently or in the best possible way.
P.S: I am kind of reconstructing myself.. brick by brick so that I emerge a strong person.
I have moved from "restless mind" to "imperfect mind". Now I am moving to a perfect mind. Once I achieve that, the world and the people and their opinions will no longer affect me. Till then, I may need to be a devil, if required.
You need to have a strong core and doesn't matter how you achieve it. If you need to push people or alienate them or isolate yourself or tell them on the face about their flaws or go about trumpeting your achievements...you go ahead and do it.It's a transitory phase.
All transitions have turbulence. We need to deal with the turbulence and I have resolved to deal with mine. Some relations need to be severed. Some hearts will break. But, eventually things settle down.
Resolutions happen mostly on some of the strange days where you find yourself wiser by a particular "thought" or "idea".
This year, there are some key topics I want to focus on.
I want to repeat some things like a mantra and its effective to repeat and internalize these.
1) To stand up for myself.
Whether I work, or sleep or laze around...
Whether I choose a low paying job or choose to study..
Whether I wear a brand or khadi
Whether I am out in shabby hair or all decked..
I will stand by myself. I will respect who I am and my choices.
I will not feel apologetic for the choices I make.
I will not feel sympathetic for what I am or what I have become.
I will stand by myself...my right and wrong choices...
I am good enough for me. Repeat this a million times...
I may not be good enough for you, but I am good enough for me.
This is all about belief, self-esteem and confidence.
Quoting from Chanakya Neeti:
Low self esteem is probably the biggest cause behind failures in life. The foremost requirement for accomplishing something big will be to build a high self-esteem.
My shop closed not because it was recession not because I was lazy not because it was high priced or not because products were not good...it closed because I stopped believing in my dreams. I started feeling apologetic for my choice.. somehow I started feeling it was a second-class thing to own a shop..I felt hurt when I met customers who did not behave well with me because I had a huge ego..I expected them to be polite and respectful... I was affected when a few silly folks told me we wudn't make it...I also had issues whether we should sell costly products because there was an ethical clash there - I myself hated overpriced products but my products were costly because I was buying them for more price and I had no choice. We used great jars and great packaging and all that added to the cost. So, there was a huge moral conflict. When there were no customers my hopes were down and I had no energy to revive the business or infuse new ideas and energy. The worst thing that can happen to a business is the owner becoming negative or skeptical. Not lack of cash, not lack of people.. The energy I had when I started started waning due to negativity. I was waiting for some positivity for sometime but since nothing came, I lose it...You start a business only when u have the confidence to see it not growing for 10 years.. that's a bench mark. Believe me 10 years is a long time.. I had no patience to hold on to a difficult pregnancy for 9 months.. I could not stay in a suffocating company for 1 year..I cannot do something I do not love, even for 1 day.. so, there you go. I am not the person who had the confidence to back my decision without seeing any success - for 10 years. So, we failed. I own up. Today, 2 years of relaxation and richer by having read tons of articles, I am growing to be a confident woman. A person who is strong inside, cannot be fragmented or cracked, but soft and polite on the outside.
In today's faced paced world, we have no time to think. We follow the herd without knowing what we want. We have no time to stop and correct ourselves because we hardly have time to sleep or eat also. So, we forget our real aspirations and dreams. Hence it's all the more important to know ourself well.. and be confident wherever we are in life. Whether you're a janitor or Facebook CEO - all men are actually equal. The society projects some jobs as white collar and some as beneath our status. It's all bullshit.
If we give in to such class concepts, in our inferiority complex, we will under-perform. We will meet tons of people who will feel we are worthless or we don't do great jobs. That's fine. Unless you have confidence, all this will bother you.. bother you so much that you'll go mad or commit suicide feeling so negative about oneself.
Also, today it's almost a crime to want to have a relaxed life or feel happy. You have to keep moving, keep changing and adapting.. as fast as the new gadgets that get released.. so you're considered backward and incapable...if you want a relaxed life, it's a crime. Don't give in to that shit. This productivity frenzy is propagated by those who want to make more things and sell more fast, to make a fast buck.. and fill their wallets. India is a spiritual country. Since ancient times, man's well being was considered of utmost important than material things. That's the right way to look at the world.
This western way of living is not right for most of us.
2) Stop looking at others. No comparisons. Seriously.. don't even
look.. don't give a damn.. Just look at yourself and how ur doing ur
daily activities. Each of our lives and constitution - physical and
mental, our capabilities, our values, our tolerance for different issues is so different. Even if this means not appreciating others, its ok. Don't give a damn.
We are at a point where we are exposed to people so different from us. That should not bog you down.
3) Stop fearing things. No need to live in fear.. whether
its abt being jobless or childless or penniless.. Just deal with
whatever happens. Deal with the things you fear, head on. Whether it's your fear of driving or fear of learning a new language or fear of dancing... let go a little and just attack the issue.
5) De-addict from romantic movies and Koffee with DD :-) Total time waste :-)
i.e reduce unproductive, energy or time consuming activity or activity that u hate doing.
6) Deal with this motapa thing well.. Today, every single day, the flab around my waist bothers me sooooo much. I just can't say. I want to achieve 0% body fat. I hate body fat. But like I observed, the more I obsess over it, the less it budges. The things that have worked for me are those which I have not cared much about..the things we obsess about.. drain us. I somehow want to make peace with my weight but continue healthy habits...
7) Write clearly. Don't deviate - if you have other points that are interesting, cover under appropriate subject, not under this. Be precise. Answer precisely. Don't waste anyone's time writing long mails. Have a clear train of thoughts. Have clarity of speech.
8) Respond to important calls and mails :-)
I am slowly moving the Robin Sharma way, I can feel it... Maybe one day I will turn into a motivational speaker!
And last one:
9) Use time efficiently or in the best possible way.
P.S: I am kind of reconstructing myself.. brick by brick so that I emerge a strong person.
I have moved from "restless mind" to "imperfect mind". Now I am moving to a perfect mind. Once I achieve that, the world and the people and their opinions will no longer affect me. Till then, I may need to be a devil, if required.
You need to have a strong core and doesn't matter how you achieve it. If you need to push people or alienate them or isolate yourself or tell them on the face about their flaws or go about trumpeting your achievements...you go ahead and do it.It's a transitory phase.
All transitions have turbulence. We need to deal with the turbulence and I have resolved to deal with mine. Some relations need to be severed. Some hearts will break. But, eventually things settle down.
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