Too much importance is given to looks these days. What that has done is, alienated many people. I have heard from many that the facebook selfies of these glamorous creatures has left many cringing and unhappy. The average Joes and Joneses are left feeling as though their life is not worth living. While it's upto every person how they tackle this issue, the worst part is, if you're someone average or so-called below average - looking for a partner, you're in for trouble. In today's world, it seems almost impossible to get married if you're not good looking, not well educated, not earning well, not slim, not fair. We think that what is appreciated is the best thing to possess.
Since people with these qualities are appreciated more and can easily find a partner, the rest of us have to tug in and try and fit into the mould. This is how society forces us to follow some ideals, few of which don't make sense. Atleast the slim part - could be attributed to health consciousness.. but many of the other requirements do not offer anything to one's wellbeing but we have to spend enormous time and energy fitting into that mould. It takes much more self rootedness, courage and confidence to not conform to such moulds.
I am sure that in the years to come, there will be a revolution by those who feel left out. If that happens, it would be a welcome change.
P.S: Was thinking of roaming in the sun and doing some chores but the threat of coming out tanned, made me ditch the plan and take an a/c car ride. If we did not have to bother so much about how we look - we'd spend less on parlours, less on clothes, less on shoes, makeup and perfume, less time grooming...that we'd have abundant time for other things. But now those "other things" don't exist at all.. all we want to do is, dress and look pretty. Anti-beauty revolution required badly.
Also, I had to literally keep repeating "I may not be good enough for someone else but I'm good enough for me" all the time, throughout my Assam trip. I also had to refrain from looking at other women who attended the wedding, lest I feel inferior about myself. There's just nothing you can do It worked to a large extent and I came back with my ego and self confidence almost intact. Huge achievement, cheers!
Since people with these qualities are appreciated more and can easily find a partner, the rest of us have to tug in and try and fit into the mould. This is how society forces us to follow some ideals, few of which don't make sense. Atleast the slim part - could be attributed to health consciousness.. but many of the other requirements do not offer anything to one's wellbeing but we have to spend enormous time and energy fitting into that mould. It takes much more self rootedness, courage and confidence to not conform to such moulds.
I am sure that in the years to come, there will be a revolution by those who feel left out. If that happens, it would be a welcome change.
P.S: Was thinking of roaming in the sun and doing some chores but the threat of coming out tanned, made me ditch the plan and take an a/c car ride. If we did not have to bother so much about how we look - we'd spend less on parlours, less on clothes, less on shoes, makeup and perfume, less time grooming...that we'd have abundant time for other things. But now those "other things" don't exist at all.. all we want to do is, dress and look pretty. Anti-beauty revolution required badly.
Also, I had to literally keep repeating "I may not be good enough for someone else but I'm good enough for me" all the time, throughout my Assam trip. I also had to refrain from looking at other women who attended the wedding, lest I feel inferior about myself. There's just nothing you can do It worked to a large extent and I came back with my ego and self confidence almost intact. Huge achievement, cheers!
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