So, the last few days have been quite hectic.
Surprise of surprise my US trip just happened.
I have been there so many times but this one started off so beautifully.
I am super excited to meet my old college mates in New York.
Also, since I live life a little more consciously, I think I may be able to enjoy the trip better. Also, no job to attend to, no pressure :-)
So, a while ago S had gone to San Jose. I was the one giving her tips about US.
Now the tables have turned. She was the one who last visited so when I met S for our weekly ritual, but at a different place - The Hummingtree, I asked her what to do and what all to take and where all to go.
When I looked back, it taught me a lesson. I had been the go to person and now I had a go to person. Things change. Sometimes you're the expert, sometimes someone else is. That's life. So, this beautiful change is possible only when you don't have any ego problems with the other person.
Even with respect to parents, many parents are stuck with the idea that they are the best, they know it all. But as children grow up, they also learn many things. They may know a lot about certain things than you. Also, due to the fast paced changes, children maybe better equipped to learn and unlearn faster. So, there should be no problem taking tips from a child. That should not hurt one's ego. Also, the child should have the maturity that just because their parents don't know something, it doesn't decrease their worth. They are to be loved and respected nevertheless. I think these things play a big role in life and relationships.
Also, someone below you may go above you.
Life is such.
Also, a few months back I was so depressed. I thought life can never get better. But now here I am. I was laughing like a madman yesterday. I took a moment to see how things had changed. I had never imagined that life would get this better in the course of a few months. The year had seen many turmoils but it had also seen huge transformations in me.
I understood a big point.
The ego is the one who is stuck with things. It has static ideas. It's difficult to change the image that the ego has. So, when changes happen, we don't want to unlearn and learn. We remain rigid. The more rigid you are and the more unwilling you are to learn from life, the bigger your ego.
So, maybe unknowingly I had grown a huge ego - one that hated changes.. one that hated to learn.
One has to learn to move on.. to accept change. The more you age, the more the ego you gather. So, we hate changes. We follow the dull routine and it dulls us even further. Whereas the teens and young adults are more happy. They are not that rigid. They have enough curiosity and zeal. But by the time you reach 30s and 40s, we get into the daily grind and forget many things.
It's a bad thing.
The ego hates novelty. It makes you dull.
The non-ego part of us, likes to explore. That's why, the more unknown you do, the more courageous you become, the more alive you become. That's why Osho repeats constantly to seek new experiences.. not to get dulled by life and remain static.
When you delve deep into these things, you understand so much.. you get so much like a diver who dives deep and extracts pearls.
Surprise of surprise my US trip just happened.
I have been there so many times but this one started off so beautifully.
I am super excited to meet my old college mates in New York.
Also, since I live life a little more consciously, I think I may be able to enjoy the trip better. Also, no job to attend to, no pressure :-)
So, a while ago S had gone to San Jose. I was the one giving her tips about US.
Now the tables have turned. She was the one who last visited so when I met S for our weekly ritual, but at a different place - The Hummingtree, I asked her what to do and what all to take and where all to go.
When I looked back, it taught me a lesson. I had been the go to person and now I had a go to person. Things change. Sometimes you're the expert, sometimes someone else is. That's life. So, this beautiful change is possible only when you don't have any ego problems with the other person.
Even with respect to parents, many parents are stuck with the idea that they are the best, they know it all. But as children grow up, they also learn many things. They may know a lot about certain things than you. Also, due to the fast paced changes, children maybe better equipped to learn and unlearn faster. So, there should be no problem taking tips from a child. That should not hurt one's ego. Also, the child should have the maturity that just because their parents don't know something, it doesn't decrease their worth. They are to be loved and respected nevertheless. I think these things play a big role in life and relationships.
Also, someone below you may go above you.
Life is such.
Also, a few months back I was so depressed. I thought life can never get better. But now here I am. I was laughing like a madman yesterday. I took a moment to see how things had changed. I had never imagined that life would get this better in the course of a few months. The year had seen many turmoils but it had also seen huge transformations in me.
I understood a big point.
The ego is the one who is stuck with things. It has static ideas. It's difficult to change the image that the ego has. So, when changes happen, we don't want to unlearn and learn. We remain rigid. The more rigid you are and the more unwilling you are to learn from life, the bigger your ego.
So, maybe unknowingly I had grown a huge ego - one that hated changes.. one that hated to learn.
One has to learn to move on.. to accept change. The more you age, the more the ego you gather. So, we hate changes. We follow the dull routine and it dulls us even further. Whereas the teens and young adults are more happy. They are not that rigid. They have enough curiosity and zeal. But by the time you reach 30s and 40s, we get into the daily grind and forget many things.
It's a bad thing.
The ego hates novelty. It makes you dull.
The non-ego part of us, likes to explore. That's why, the more unknown you do, the more courageous you become, the more alive you become. That's why Osho repeats constantly to seek new experiences.. not to get dulled by life and remain static.
When you delve deep into these things, you understand so much.. you get so much like a diver who dives deep and extracts pearls.
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