Major energy drainers:
1) Dwelling more on the things we don't have or things that didn't work out or are not working out.
While it's important to have goals and plan for the future it doesn't pay one cent to dwell on negativity.
We are so used to pondering over what we don't have - lack of a good job, lack of a soul mate, lacking good friends, lack of beauty,lack of some skill...that we hardly be grateful for what we have. A lot of us have a lot of positive things is us.. positive things going for us.. our life is not threatened.. we have homes and family and even enough money.. but when the eyes focus only on the lack, the entire perception of life becomes difficult. For a day, I forgot all this and lived carefree and it was quite an eye opener. If your mind is not constantly racing against "what should I do next" - you become a different person. You observe better.. you absorb better...else you're in your selfish world and other things and others and their moods will go unnoticed.
What is not working, has to be solved or left alone... an honest effort has to be made but beyond that we leave it to fate or luck.
Most successful people have just mastered the tricks to deal with this. Move on fast..
Problems don't give us energy.. When we see life as an endless battle we're filled with hopelessness. Hopelessness and helplessness drain everything in us. It weakens even the most intelligent of us.
You cannot live even a day with hopelessness. We need to have things that we look forward to, despite setbacks. That's how we can get out of bed. Else depression leads to more depression and we dig deeper pits for ourselves to die.
2) Constantly comparing with others.. People are more unhappy not because of where they are but because of where others have reached. It's like driving a car always looking at the rear view mirror.
We may be doing well at our jobs but the moment we see a friend opening their own business or getting famous or buying a luxury home and car, jealousy kicks in and our life which was good just a moment ago, looks like a failure. We feel that we have failed to achieve things, but wait a minute - did you plan something that the other achieved? We're so awesome that we compare and feel bad for things that are not even on our radar. Our friend opens a new business and we feel bad. Did you plan to open a business? Did you open and fail? Why feel bad? Quite stupid, right? If only we introspected what is making us feel bad. Those who are planning and doing their work never feel jealous of others. Only because you donno what you want or you did not execute your plan well, do you feel like a failure, which is reflected everytime you see someone else's success. If you feel you're doing your best, you will not feel jealous of someone else.
The only way to reach somewhere is - by planning and working towards it. Simply looking at others never helped us climb mountains. It's such a useless pursuit.
It requires a lot of maturity to get to that place where you're happy where you are, irrespective of where the world has reached. The world has 7 billion+ people. All are doing something. All have goals. Can we track all of them? Do we want to do that? Someone, somewhere in the world is doing an awesome job.. in a field which we love.. doing it the way we wished we could do...The best thing you can do is, congratulate him and befriend him and learn how they did it. Or... believe that you have it in you and in time you too can achieve success.
You have goals and plans and you're not constantly evaluating yourself based on where the world has gotten to. It's good to get inspired by others. It's good to look at new things that others are doing and pick up new hobbies..but that should done the right way. Because, sometimes what we're searching for is lying out there and someone else's pursuit may bring some direction to us. There's only one way to look at someone else's achievements - learning from it. No other way.
3) Constant overthinking.. Setting goals and just doing it, consumes far less energy than half heartedly set goals - pondered over again and again.. overthought and killed.. without your ass being moved one inch.. That is such an energy drainer compared to just not-thinking and going and doing the work.
The mind - which is thought - makes us achieve far less than we are capable of. The mind should be used and listened to - bare minimally, if we are to make progress and find success.
1) Dwelling more on the things we don't have or things that didn't work out or are not working out.
While it's important to have goals and plan for the future it doesn't pay one cent to dwell on negativity.
We are so used to pondering over what we don't have - lack of a good job, lack of a soul mate, lacking good friends, lack of beauty,lack of some skill...that we hardly be grateful for what we have. A lot of us have a lot of positive things is us.. positive things going for us.. our life is not threatened.. we have homes and family and even enough money.. but when the eyes focus only on the lack, the entire perception of life becomes difficult. For a day, I forgot all this and lived carefree and it was quite an eye opener. If your mind is not constantly racing against "what should I do next" - you become a different person. You observe better.. you absorb better...else you're in your selfish world and other things and others and their moods will go unnoticed.
What is not working, has to be solved or left alone... an honest effort has to be made but beyond that we leave it to fate or luck.
Most successful people have just mastered the tricks to deal with this. Move on fast..
Problems don't give us energy.. When we see life as an endless battle we're filled with hopelessness. Hopelessness and helplessness drain everything in us. It weakens even the most intelligent of us.
You cannot live even a day with hopelessness. We need to have things that we look forward to, despite setbacks. That's how we can get out of bed. Else depression leads to more depression and we dig deeper pits for ourselves to die.
2) Constantly comparing with others.. People are more unhappy not because of where they are but because of where others have reached. It's like driving a car always looking at the rear view mirror.
We may be doing well at our jobs but the moment we see a friend opening their own business or getting famous or buying a luxury home and car, jealousy kicks in and our life which was good just a moment ago, looks like a failure. We feel that we have failed to achieve things, but wait a minute - did you plan something that the other achieved? We're so awesome that we compare and feel bad for things that are not even on our radar. Our friend opens a new business and we feel bad. Did you plan to open a business? Did you open and fail? Why feel bad? Quite stupid, right? If only we introspected what is making us feel bad. Those who are planning and doing their work never feel jealous of others. Only because you donno what you want or you did not execute your plan well, do you feel like a failure, which is reflected everytime you see someone else's success. If you feel you're doing your best, you will not feel jealous of someone else.
The only way to reach somewhere is - by planning and working towards it. Simply looking at others never helped us climb mountains. It's such a useless pursuit.
It requires a lot of maturity to get to that place where you're happy where you are, irrespective of where the world has reached. The world has 7 billion+ people. All are doing something. All have goals. Can we track all of them? Do we want to do that? Someone, somewhere in the world is doing an awesome job.. in a field which we love.. doing it the way we wished we could do...The best thing you can do is, congratulate him and befriend him and learn how they did it. Or... believe that you have it in you and in time you too can achieve success.
You have goals and plans and you're not constantly evaluating yourself based on where the world has gotten to. It's good to get inspired by others. It's good to look at new things that others are doing and pick up new hobbies..but that should done the right way. Because, sometimes what we're searching for is lying out there and someone else's pursuit may bring some direction to us. There's only one way to look at someone else's achievements - learning from it. No other way.
3) Constant overthinking.. Setting goals and just doing it, consumes far less energy than half heartedly set goals - pondered over again and again.. overthought and killed.. without your ass being moved one inch.. That is such an energy drainer compared to just not-thinking and going and doing the work.
The mind - which is thought - makes us achieve far less than we are capable of. The mind should be used and listened to - bare minimally, if we are to make progress and find success.
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